My sister, a couple years ago, out of the blue, told our disabled parents they either go to a state home (they're free and horrible) and give her the little money they still had, or else they wouldn't see her again. They refused and she cut contact then, never let them see the grandchildren again either.
A few days ago she complained to my parents' caregiver that the family was separated because of money.
I mean, if you are the person demanding money and cutting contact because of money, do you complain the family is separated because of money????
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