I think I have Asperger's

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Hey. I think I am Asperger's. I am almost positive. I can't believe it's taken so long to figure it out. My life has sucked so much and I always thought I was just some freak.

I want a diagnosis. Why? I am going to go back to school, but was going to skip the whole mess, because I was certain I could not pass the interview portion of admissions because of my language problems. With a dx, I think that I might be allowed some slack in that department.

Here is me:

Have had A's and B's all my life growing up. IQ tested at 115 and 140. But:

Have always had problems understanding people when they talk. Understanding what they mean in various situations.

I don't ever get jokes.

I can read and write well, but much better than I can speak. I guess that's because I can use a dictionary to find words to say things. I know what I want to say in my head, but can never seem to find the words for it.

I often memorize phrases that people use to say certain things, so I can use them to say the same thing, but can't ever fully understand the meaning enough to generalize the usage for phrases or conversations outside of the purpose for which I've memorized the phrase/word.

I have no friends.

I have no empathy. I have actually copied empathic reactions to use for people in many different situations.

I wear the same clothes all the time. I have no interest in fashion. I have no interest in anything but a few topics.

"Hanging out" has never been fun for me.

I have studied people to learn different body gestures, more animated ways to talk, even reasons to and ways to laugh.

I taught myself how to make eye contact.

I can't start conversations or keep them going.

No interest in intimacy. I almost hate physical contact.

I've gone online to research topics of conversation to use in various situations and just use them over and over again.

I am told often that I have a very stern tone of voice and that it has no "variation", but I can't seem to change it.

Opinions?

It sounds to me you are high functioning Austim.

HFA or AS to me.

Nice to meet you, hiccup.

Welcome to WP!

Maybe you do! You can talk to a doctor and find out he can tell you for certain.

Now, I have a question:

How do you know you lack empathy? I don't believe anyone completely lacks empathy at all times in every situation. I think empathy is one of life's varied variables and everyone has it at times, not so much other times. So, what makes you think you lack empathy? Can you give an example?

I admit I do lack empathy from time to time, although I am not happy to write that. Other times I think I feel too much empathy and am the exact opposite. I think I go overboard and am rushed with all this empathy and feelings of sorrow and sadness when I see someone or hear about something.

Oh yes, another thing. I am a much better writer than speaker too.

It sounds a bit along the lines but we are all different, I am not sure exactly what makes someone AS. I can tell you that as I have very simular things to you but also some different, but both can fit within the diagnosis.

hi and welcome!

if you're still in highschool... maybe you could start there with finding a place to go to (maybe they have a history on ya too) ... once you're out in the "adult world" it gets a bit trickier.

Thanks for your responses.

Some people suggested HFA. Why?

ooOo...: I know I lack empathy because I can't feel what others are feeling. I also very very rarely feel sympathy for them. I have almost always faked empathy. My husband calls me an "automaton." Alot of times, when people cry or get hurt, I laugh, mostly because I don't know what to do. I hug and kiss many times when I notice their shock or hurt at my indifference and then I'm like, "Okay, all better, so let's get back to what we were doing..."

A very specific example: About a year ago, my brother-in-law and I were biking. He fell off his bike and hit his head on a rock. It was evident he needed stiches. I didn't care. Didn't care about any of it. I was like, crap, how can I fake this? I was really more annoyed that my ride got interrupted.

Sedaka: I am way out of HS :0

Pobodys (and that is the coolest name...): What sucks the most about it?

only actual "quote" diff is a delay in language... with AS stipulating that there is no "significant" delay... but that's quazi up in the air cause i guess they're finding that developmental rates aren't constant and even young children with more severe autism actually can become milder as they develop... so i think they're challenging this definition using those lines.

i dunno...

I think your right. You do have Asperger's Syndrome, almost all of the symptoms as a matter of fact... which is actually quite unusual.

My son said to me, in response to a rude remark "I'll say two words that I say all the time in school but I don't really mean-I'm sorry."

Yes, he has learned the script, too. But, damn, he fools me all the time an dhe's nine-years old (almost).

My point being, if at your age you think this way, I'm sure you have compensated and learned the script, so it will be difficult to convince others (doctors).

But, what the heck, go fo the diagnosis if it makes you feel better. I would.

(you do sound like you could have aspergers/hfa-I do too, but I wouldn't bother, at my age, to go get a diagnosis unless I were forced to-I don't like someone observing and analzying me)

equinn

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