I need help please

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Today i was told that one of my best friends is an Asperger. Finally a lot of things are dawning to me, after looking a little into what asperger is i can relate it to a lot of his behaviour. I cannot imagine how hard it is for him. He is 18, and graduated from high school with outstanding grades, but feels useless and does not want to go to college. Both his parents are doctors but they dont know what to do for him, they have tried everything they could to help him out. The best i know i can do is be a good friend to him, but it pains me that he feels that way. He has locked everyone out of his thoughts and does not like to share his feelings with anyone. It is hard for him to make friends and he does not show his emotions. Please, i really really would like to help him, does anyone have any idea what i can do. Please help me. Thanks in advance

Tell him he's the same person as he always was, and why you like him as a friend.
When I feel useless, that's what I always wish someone would tell me.

Actually, things have gotten so bad that I've started confronting people about that outright.
But that's my fight,

If you care that much about helping him, to even ask the question and give it some thought, then you are truly a rare person and he must have some worth to have someone like you.


~Hope that answered your quest.ion.

How about this idea?

You should know what his interests are, and engage with his interests.

For example, (in my case) I am into geography,history,politics and languages) so being able to talk about Antananarivo(wohoo I spelt it right!), or the history of the Zimbabwea Bush War, or why apartheid existed, or teaching him Swahili (Yes, we got a trend here) should help!

Make him feel worthwhile and sit with him and let me cry and laugh and whatever other emotion he feels. Remember not to judge or criticize. Just let him be himself.

Tell him about college if you are old enough to have went. Tell him all the wonderful things in college!

thank you both so much, i really apreciate you're reply´s i will try both ideas.

Tell him you'd like to help and ask HIM what he wants/needs. That's what I wish someone would do for me when I'm going through rough times. I've always thought the worst part of being Aspergian is that so few people really understand (or even try to understand) me.

Tell him about the forum, may be, reading our posts will make him feel that he's not changed and he will feel better Aren't we all interesting people here, by the way?