How are your conversations? Do you ask lots of questions?

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When I talk to people other than my friends and family in everyday life, I always ask questions. I ask about everything from their favourite colour to how they like or what they do in their job or how their apartment looks like.

My conversations to most people are all about me posing questions to them and them having to answer me.

I know a lot more about other people than usual. I don't care for the information, but it can be handy sometimes. I automatically pick on a lot of that non-autistic/other people miss too, so I'm surprisingly good informed for someone who's usually excluded.


So how are your conversation normally?

Do you get asked a lot? Do you ask a lot? Do you try to get them talking? Do you do all the talking and how do you do it?

Yes.

People often say I interrogate them.

People are dumb.

I have noticed that any questions I ask tend to be closed questions rather than open. Guess that makes it less a conversation and more a question/answer session. I find I get annoyed at being asked open questions, and I tend to re-phase it in my head to a closed question so I can answer it without too much of a headache...without telling the person I am talking to what I have done. People have commented that my responses can be unique.

I askloads of questions generally. I am very nosy and like to know everything. People often say I ask weird questions too.

I don't mind certain questions I just hate the intrusive questions some people ask. I want to say "It's none of your business" only not as polite as that. A lot of the time it really IS none of their business! What right does someone you just talked to for the first time five minutes ago or whom you barely know have to ask a bunch of really personal questions?

Like, when I go to get my hair done. The first thing the stylist asks:

"What do you do for a living?"

I find that type of thing offensive and it's not because I don't have a good job it's just because it's very impolite and rude to be that inconsiderate of someone else. It implies all you care about is how much they earn.

Sora is full of questions.

It is safe if your ask what they have answers for.

I ask about what I do not know, nor do they, I make them feel dumb.

Seeking knowledge is the way out of ignorance, but people do not like questions they have no answer for.

People do like to speak of themselves.

Many ask me questions, simple ones, then think I must be up to something, for they cannot figure me out.

Then they start projecting their fears.

Mostly, I avoid people.

Non-existent

Always. It's my main mode of conversation with most people. Not so much that I'm curious - unless the conversation topic is something about which I am curious - but because people will answer questions with information. It gives the conversation structure, and lets me ask details to process things if I need to. I have to generate less spontaneous conversation if I am asking questions assembled from prior information. I do less talking because the questions are short, while the answers are usually long. And I learn things - details that I store away for future use.

The children in my neighborhood: "Oh my gosh, you always ask so many questions!" (at least three times a day)

When I am in conversations, I usually tend to not really ask a lot of questions, although people have been asking ME questions lately.

I’m either asking questions,
May be answering their question, usually with a yes or no,
Unless it fits in to one of the 2 categories below
Recanting a memorized statement or
Or Going on and on about one of my favored subjects;
And a lot of times that’s sex , and it make’s a lot people uncomfortable, or some people (men) don’t seem to under stand if you’re talking about sex that doesn’t mean I want to have sex with them, I’m just talking. They could do it but if you’re a woman only sluts do. (I guess) and I some times don’t know why I do it, try not to bring it up, try to bore them with flower talk, music of the 60-70’s, heath foods, or autism or neurological / mental illness, but know one wants to talk about these things. So mostly I try not to talk, even on WP I feel like I have to be guarded because I give to much info, a lot of times I don’t end up posting the things I type, I think about it and think no I shouldn’t say that out load. But it’s harder with words you can blurt some thing out and then try to shove the words back in your mouth and it doesn’t work. I guess I’m still learning.

I ask people a lot of questions for a few reasons, 1. I'm curious, 2. that way they'll do all the talking and I don't have to hold up my end of the conversation (which I'm terrible at) and 3.I'v noticed that people love to talk about themselves, so they seem to enjoy it more than if I talk.

Yes... it's a coping mechanism; a method of avoiding talking; the way I teach; social sonar, giving me a better picture of the other person. I prefer being asked questions than being expected to prattle.


M.