SUCCESS

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This one is directed at those that are over 30s. Did you manage to be successful, ie, do you have a beautiful wife/husband, an high paying job, a nice house, a fast car, 2 beautiful kids? Or you didn't manage to evolute in any job you had, you never get a girl/guy because of asperger's?

With this topic i want to know this: Can an aspie be "successful" in this modern world?

37.

Crash and burn.

36, have a good paying job as programmer. Living in Amsterdam, which is a wonderful place to live.
No wife, no kids. And wouldn't want to, so I don't miss it.
I could get higher paying jobs, but would have to work in other places or in larger companies. I avoid this and prefer what I do right now.
Private life is a mess most of the time from an outside view. But ok for me.
Had several good looking girl friends over the time, but nothing came out of it. But funny thing: When I was in my twenties, all this relationship business had somehow to be something for the future, always with that family thing in mind. The women I meet now, are mostly singles with kids and a job of their own, so they don't need to found a family anymore.

I think you can be successful in the job world if you find a job where you can use your special abilities.

im 37, i am a veterinarian. so it is a moderately high paid job.
I am back at university studying a masters.
I am getting married in 3 weeks to an attractive woman.
i have a son who is 6 and is also AS.
I own my own home and have a crappy car by choice ( as i do many miles and it gets kicked by cattle a lot)
Am i successfull?
my manta is: it is not how you start...it is how you finish, and the race is never over.

oh it was touch and go there for a while, started out in art school, dropped out, i could've ended up homeless or in a psych ward I suppose, but i didn't. Just got by with part time work in my twenties, got full time work and a degree in my thirties, crashed at about 40. Moved to a cheaper state to get into property ownership, the prices went up a lot so I moved states again to pocket the financial gain. I didn't mind being young and poor but I don't want to be old and poor so I made the effort of long distance moves to achieve financial gains. It worked for me which was lucky since the world of work didn't seem cut out for me. phew. just got there.

^^ Agree with above.

I have an average house, a wonderful ASD son, a comfortable, reliable car, a decent job, a pretty good-looking ex-husband, and a wonderful, insightful, loving partner who meets all of my important ideals. The thing I would add to the above list is:

BE REALISTIC WITH WHAT YOU WANT
Make sure it is what YOU want, not what someone else wants for you.

My mother wanted me to be married, so I married too fast, in part to please her.

It is possible to be "successful". But make sure you are successful on your own terms.

Interesting thought! I'm not anywhere near where I feel I should be as far as success goes & I am 46.

What is Success?


To laugh often and love much;
To win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children;
To earn the approbation of honest citizens and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty;
To find the best in others;
To give of one’s self;
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
To have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived—this is to have succeeded.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)

Yeah, I agree. My ideal life would be having a job in the field of science, single, either in an apartment or a condo in a small city, probably active in some non-profit org. I haven't reached it yet; but I'm only 25, and it's a reasonable goal.

mojo123, thank you for the antidote to the OP. Aaaaaaaaaaaaargh ! !! !