How do I ask a man out?

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I have a crush on a man who is older than me, and I keep meaning to ask him out, because he's shown that he likes me too. I am an Aspie, but I am not bad at reading vibes from people, and I can see his vibes that he likes me. They are as visible as daylight. He's even grabbed hold of my hand and held it for a few seconds, and when he was speaking to me he had his eyes on my the whole time, and I could see that it was a different sort of eye contact - the type people use when they like you in that way. He drives a bus, but it's hit or miss if I get him on my bus because all their shifts are always different from day to day, but when I do get him, he is always friendly, and he even charges me really cheap bus fares, like a pound, whilst he charges everyone else the full bus fare. (All the other drivers chanrge me full bus fare, so it's got nothing to do with me being a regular passenger or anything). Anyway, I know he lies me back.

I really want to ask him out, but I'm not sure how, especially in front of other passengers. And maybe he wants to ask me out too but doesn't quite know where to begin, because he does seem a little shy. I say to my friends and family that I want to ask him out, but they're all like, ''oh you don't wanna do that - he might reject you then you will embarrass yourself!'' Maybe so, but you've got to do these things in life, otherwise if everybody had that attitude then nobody would ask anybody out.

I am not very experienced with this so I don't know why I am giving you advice but I would say that next time you are on his bus, you could maybe ask him when his shift finishes and then perhaps suggest meeting for a drink afterwards (cafe or bar depending upon time). The only thing I would be wary of (I am quite paranoid about this type of thing) is keeping it in mind that you might have read the situation quite wrongly and that he might want to exploit you for some reason, so keep your wits about you when you meet him (as you should for any stranger really) and don't get yourself into any dodgy situations - I am sure he is quite nice, but best to keep on guard.

I would take Billy Joel's words "Tell her about it". Of course, in this case it is "him". The worst thing a shy, unsuccessful guy like myself is to expect us to be the one to do all the speaking. Believe it or not, if a woman told me she "would like to go out sometime", I would 1) Faint, 2) Go to an insane asylum, insisting to be pinched several times, because I just had a dream, and 3) say "yes".

A mother of a friend of mine said "You seem like a nice guy. Do you think you would go out with my daughter?". He said "no", and I said "Man, if some mom said that to me, I'd have to be treated for delerium".

Write a little note containing your phone number and give it to him the next time you see him. That's the best I can come up with!

I'm only 15, so I'm not gicing any advice.

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