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Quite difficult to make friends in the real world, how much more possible to find a friend on WP? Does it reduce loneliness now you can come and talk here?

It's extremely easy, you just have to find people who like the same things you do in a thread and strike up conversation.

Yeah it does as I moved before going to uni to a different state so any friends I did have are far away and there isnt many chances to make friends in uni. I like talking to people here.

so what do you fancy then, are you looking for someon older than you or younger, male or female?

I am happy makeing friends with everyone, what they are exactly does not lower there points. It is more about the personality then what they are amd many people here have good personalities, is that answering your question.

here it doesnt matter. is it you in the avatar?

I think you can easily make friends on this forum, because a lot of us genrally have the same "defects" we share a bond between each other. I don't mind if they are 20 years older then me I will still try to be friendly with them and strike up conversation. And i think its much easier on the internet then it is in real life where we also have speach problems hampering us...

no, it's not me...I wish it was, though...always wanted to be a pro dancer among many other things

I had a three week flurry of excitement here when I first joined - had hoped to severe completely tho can't help keep coming back like a moth to a light bulb. Very often what I read is so like me, tho I detect some very much more intelligent people than me. I'd love to thinkI could gain a friend from here - yet it'll probably not happen. We are on a uk bank holiday right now, these are always tricky for me as I don't have any relatives or people to call on or talk with. So its countryside with dog or over to my business premises to do some work. Same at Christmas, tho I've never yet been to work on that day. Boxing yes. Good luck in finding friends - you never know!

could we say that there are more lonley aspies than Nts? Does an idiot savant feel lonely?

Last edited by Loborojo on 25 Aug 2008, 10:44 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Hey don't worry ablo...I'm sure it will come. i didn't realize it was bank holiday today, but I'm always rubbish at getting the days right.

I have friends...well, I think they're friends. I really don't know. I'm not sure anymore that what I call a "friendship" is the same as what an NT would call it. Having as much free time as I do I watch a lot of TV and movies, and the examples I see of friendships just don't match up with what I have in my life. There just isn't the same level of emotional connection. I really don't feel comfortable talking to my friends when i'm down (which I have been severely, for at least a week now) and I can't imagine any of them saying anything useful or having any insight whatsoever.

I feel the same way when i'm down. My best friend who i THINK does love me (and i do emphasize THINK) my initial reacttion is to call him to talk when im down. But then i think and probably rightfully so he wont have anything useful to say to pick me up. He'll just say things in a passive agressive way that puts me down (basically reiterated things we both know).

BUT, my point is, is this one of our major problems. We assume too many things we really dont know. Its just that lately im thinking just put urself out there, what do you have to lose, your rep is already in the dumps.

Well my friends have been no help in the past which is why I figure they won't be any help now. But I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I just don't seem to be capable of forming real emotional bounds with other human beings.

Fuhano - when you are down do yuou feel 'watery' and difficult to lift your head?

I don't know if I'd describe it as "watery" but I do tend to prefer looking down the more depressed I am. I guess partly I don't want people to see me and think "how pathetic."