Do you get along with your neighbors?

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I don't get along with one of my neighbors. Is this uncoommon for even NTs? I thought people did pretty much anything to get along with their neighbors?

Its common to have problems with neighbours, especially in small block suburbia or apartments, too many people crowded into too small a space, lack of privacy, noise pollution etc. Like a human zoo with too many animals crowded into too few cages, trouble erupts, often over territory of some type. I find 'out of sight is out of mind' ' works, screening shrubs, high fences etc. If they can't see you, they often 'forget' about you.

Most people try to pretend they like their neighbours, just so as not to have an enemy next door. It's not always possible though, a lot of NTs enjoy the conflict/rivalry of fighting with neighbours, it gives them something to do, since they're so competitive.

This is common for EVERYONE! Not just for those under the spectrum. One of my next door neighbors hates us. Why? Because before we moved into this house, she was good friends with the previous owner and resented us for taking their place (well duh, they were the ones who decided to move... and we only bought the house because they put the house up for SALE) and secondly we had some work done on our house before we moved in and one of the painters accidentally dropped his ladder onto her driveway so it got her mad. Since then she has held a grudge against my husband an I. I even one time tried being nice and offered her an invitation for coffee.. she literally stuck her nose into the air. And recently she saw me coming out of my car and threatened to call the city on me because one time my dog was very loudly barking outside for a SHORT period of time (not something that happens very often). I told her to get a life and also told her if I hear another word about this, then I will call the cops on her for harassment. And another neighbor hates us because she overheard my husband and I saying not so nice things about her Oh well, things happen and I have learned my lesson. As for the rest of them, just a quick "hello" and "good bye" and thats it.

yes, and a lot worse! ignore them if you can, they often seek to provoke though.

my neighbors are very understanding and are smile and wave to me, so i guess if thats getting along count me in lol, other then that i dont socialize or anything with them, i may wave and screech really loud, i looove being waved too! My one neighbor even waves ten times more jsut so i can flap lol, even honks his horn when he drives by hehe.

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we own a townhouse - end unit - totally surrounded by fences.....trees - etc..

get along?

yes and no.

we live in a small "sardines in a can" neighbourhood....and the weekends......yikes!! ! There's always someone fighting with someone else.....cop cars....etc...
or - the neighbours screeching at each other about thier kids....and the drunks....who party a little to hardy and snap on each other....

I was involved in a kind of feud with one neighbour for a few years....(every summer she would sit out in the back yard and nag and scream at her kid....all you could hear was "Mikey!! !....Mikey!! !! stop that!.....Mikey!! ! get in the house!! ! Mikey don't touch that!! ! Mikey!! ! Mikey!! ! at the top of her lungs....drove me nuts....so every year for about 3 years we'd have a screaming match....threaten to call the cops on each other....and that would be the end of that. - finally they moved.

As for the rest it's all good. The neighbours next door are great to us....although they are feuding with the neighbours across the street....

....the neighbours that are diagnally across from us had a huge brawl....about a month ago....and two women were bawling and clinging to each other.....as the rest grappled a portly bald guy to the ground....(I think it was a family re-union - but I could be wrong)

the neighbours directly across from us are best friends with party guy three doors down....and they yell out friendly greetings to each other.....and high five their beer bottles...
sometimes I get a "real treat".....cause "older party boy" three doors down.....likes to wear 80's blue jeans....and he roller-blades shirtless across the street to visit his buddy....or watch him while he tries to boost the battery on his car.....yet again....

the neighbours two doors down.....the mom let's her teenage son and his friends rule the roost and her yard is a mess, her garage door is smashed to pieces....and one time I had to call the fire department because her son and friends were all hammered up and tried to have a bar'b'que....and almost set the fence on fire....they couldn't put out the fire....it kept flaring up...."scary moment".....all of these townhouse would have gone up like matchsticks....

the neighbours three doors down....have a "really tiny townhouse" and the guy rents out to his friends....I think there is even a guy living in the garage....(or so the story goes - who really knows for sure?)....but anyway they are pretty well drunk and stoned every day.....but mostly make noise in the front......thank G.....because our bedroom in in the back and we can at least get some sleep.....
and other than the fact that because their expenses for drugs and alcohol are so high they can't afford to spay their cat and she is continously in heat or having kittens --- it's for the most part "all good!".....heh....heh...

Of course this "community bliss" does not stop me from dreaming about moving out into the country - raising a shack and a huge veggie garden off the grid....

I wonder?......would I miss them?

I smile and say "hello" when I see them. It seems like the thing to do.

I really don't know who most of the people who live in my neighborhood are, doubt they know who I am... It doesn't bother me. There's no open hostility, that's all that's important.

I get along OK with my immediate neighbors.

Neighbor problems are common. Here are several websites, some with forums!

Neighbors from Hell (with forum)

THE Neighbors from Hell

The Revenge lady

And the list goes on. Sad really.

I guess not getting along with neighbors isn't uncommon. I wonder if I should fill my other neighbor who I get along with that I am autistic. News goes around like wildfire around my neighborhood. It might help alieviate the problem with the other neighbor.

or.....you just might give them "grist for the mill"....

....in other words.....

gossiping about you....might help them to bond......
yikes!! !

I have neighbors. I scarcely ever see them.

Wow, that was blast from the past. I now get along splendidly with my neighbors because they are so far away from me that it doesn't matter. They are quiet anyway, though. I used to have that whole thing with the drunk partyers, never ending booming bass, screaming parents and kids, and hateful people who were hateful for no apparent reason.l It was either move or go insane, and since I couldn't afford to go insane, I moved to the country. Best move I ever made. Now I have cows mooing and bugs bombarding me, and trains in the far distance which I love. I have a sound sensitive issue, so it was out of pure necessity. I try to be as nice as I can to all I meet, though I know I will never please all the people all the time.

I never do, especially when they make noise. I have neigbours on top and below and in Peru they don't care, correction in South America they don't care, they do pretty much what they like. Switching on a stereo at 11 pm which blasts into the bedroom or walking on high heel shoes, clacketyclacteyclac at 6 am...why do people want to wear those shoes in the house, not thinking of whom they wake up!

I lived in a community, the same...I always end up having a row, being misunderstood and htey invade my private space (smoking in the corridor, and thw smoke wafts under my door into the lounge...
car alarms going off in teh street, dogs yapping and barking all day...Noooooooooooo way José!! !

Yes! This problem is very common ask any cop! I don't know why people want to drive other people crazy but they do. So many things set people off. You have one friendly neighbor now. Be sure you have a good relationship with this person before you share anything personal and it's FINE to not tell people stuff if you feel like it isn't any of their business. I wouldn't tell anyone anything too personal unless I was absolutely sure it was a good idea.