Aspie spends his birthday by himself cuz has no IRL friends?

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What should I do about this guy his birthday is coming up hes got no friends no party planned

Are aspies destined to birthday by themselves or have there parents throw pity parties with people they call up for them?

Nah, I have parties. Planned by myself I mean. We have lots of fun but it's never more than five or six people, more would be overwhelming and I only like to be with people I'm really close to.

Are you sure you have aspergers?

i didnt celebrate my last 6 birthdays. i live far away from my family and here i just dont tell anyone. since there is no one to tell. i dont mind though. the day might be important to my parents, but for me it is nothing special. what was my contribution to being born? none.

I hate celebrating any sort of social calendar day: birthdays, xmas, new years eve. I don't even remember people's birthdays anyway. There's a certain amount of peer pressure to have done something 'special' though, particularly for young people.

ah yes, i do something special on my b-days, i always buy myself something. last year i bought myself an internet domain and this year i bought myself one year subscription to a gym going to look awesome

Depends. I've had years that I've had a whole posse of people to invite to my birthday party. Other years, all the people I've known have lived far away, and I've celebrated by myself. One day I'm hoping that it will always be the former situation.

I usually go out to eat with my parents, grandparents, and siblings; that's all.

Send him an e-card?
Seriously, for my b-day I make sure I don't have to do anything and no one bothers me and hopefully the few people I like who understand me will show me I mean something to them and they are glad I was born.

Do something fun with him. Acknowledge it's his birthday. Parties are unnecessary.

Birthday for me involves: Great breakfast, great lunch and a great dinner. It is awesome and it is more 'hygienic' than having to host a party, gosh that party stuff is annoying, I would get suicidal if my birthday involved something I despise that much.

I havent celebrated my birthday since i was about 10 and hope it will stay like that. I was never happy with birthday partys because they felt like they was meant to be for everyone else but me. Everyone likes any excuse for a party but my whole life I avoid them so a party meant for me is really for everyone but me.

For my birthday, I generally just buy myself a nice present and eat at my favorite restaurant. If a friend or relative wants to come along to the restaurant or give me gifts, they're certainly welcome, but they're optional. I'd celebrate the same way whether they come along or they don't.

I think it depends on the aspie. An aspie can throw a party for himself and invite all his aspie buddies. Someone in the aspie gathering can throw someone a party in it and it's just them there only. or an aspie can have a party and it's family only or a few friends. It all depends on the aspie. Parties don't always need to have lot of people and need to be loud. A party can be with a few people only.


I had a party one time only when I was nine it was a big mistake. It was overwhelming and I never did it again. I should have invited only a few kids, my friends, not all the girls in my class. But only half showed up anyway but that may was still too much.

But my family threw me one when I turned four and I enjoyed it. It was my family only and relatives. I got lot of presents and after I opened all my gifts, my Dad took me outside with my new Fisher Price roller skates. I spent the rest of the time playing with them as my cousins did other things like playing my new board game Candyland.

Ahh that sounds like my situation exaactly.. Im glad there's no one around like that it's just pure suffering to me, to feel that ugly obligation.. I hate obligations.. just my brother lives here.

4 years ago i decided to throw myself a birthday party. i spent 2 weeks inviting people and reminding people its coming up. I had my birthday party at one of my friends place cause it was more conviniently placed for more people to show up. Well, i was the only person who went to my own birthday party. Had it not been at my friends place, i would have been alone that night. My cousin/best friend even dropped by earlier that day inviting me to a party at his cousins place, because there's gonna be alot of people there, and probably nobody is gonna show up at mine. The day after, my brother commented that he totally forgot about my birthday party.

Also the last 3 birthdays ive had, absolutely horrible as well.

Now when my birthday comes around, i leave and dont contact anybody, and spend the whole day by myself, as to avoid anybody f*****g it up.

I always stayed in my bedroom doing my own thing on my birthday. I had a friend over two times but I got bored and over stimulated with them would would retreat to my own. After my 11th birthday, aside from my family, I spent every one after that alone. I perfered it that way. I always wanted to go places of my birthday but can't do much when your birthday is in the middle of winter.