Are you talkative when not on WP?

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A lot of people here have great ideas and ways of expressing them. I wonder if they're the same way in person? That's why I love watching videos of people I regularly read here, to see how they sound in real life. Granted, how you behave in front of the camera can be different, I get an idea how the person behaves socially. So are you just as communicative in real life? How are you different?

I am very talkative.. I can totally dominate a conversation if the other person is not speaking up... If he/she is trying to make small talk I keep quiet but usually try to head into a direction I can speak about. I let them share their ideas and then I tell them mine and so on...

When I'm speaking with one or two people, I talk, and how. I tend to dominate conversations as well. It's only 9.40 and I've spoken with a good friend, a school secretary, a depute head and a neighbour I pass a lot and we had proper conversations. But, when there's more than one or two people, I clam up quite a bit.

It depends. Most people don't like when I talk too much, or rather I would say they tolerate me to different degrees. When I have the right person, I can be very talkative, I have to hold myself back to give time the other person, saying "I've talked too much, what about you?". I have to think up possible ways of the conversation that would trigger my conversational partner to talk about his/her matters more. Not at all easy to me.

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My ability to talk is highly variable and dependent upon several factors. On average, I'd say that no, I do not communicate as well in person, but sometimes I can.

I'm very talkative online but I tend to be a lot more quiet offline. I'm very shy offline, Some accuse me of being rude & offensive when I do talk offline because I say things the wrong way or something; they say I have a hostile attitude maybe because of my tone of voice or maybe they misread my facial expressions or something IDK. I also have a tremor disorder that can affect my voice when I'm nervous & cause my voice to stutter & slur. I don't feel like my real true self around others offline. I feel like I'm pretending to be something I'm not & I can have bad problems when I start to reveal the real me. To use a Star Trek analogy; it's like I'm on a pre-warp planet & I have to be a passive observer so I don't risk cultural contamination. Being my real self causes problems for me & others. I never felt truly comfortable around anyone offline but I really want to find one person I can be the real me with offline

It's rather different with me in real life. Here, nobody can shut me up.....I can sit about for as long as I like working out exactly what I want to say.

In real life, I have the stress of the immediate physical presence of the people I'm trying to socialise with. I have to think on the hoof. There's no time to write down the idea I want to express....I just have to start talking and hope to god it comes out something like right. It's mostly a matter of time....the other people can move the subject matter on before I've had the chance to make my point.

I don't know how I perform in practice. My diagnostician noticed that I was much stronger with the written word than with the spoken word. But I was shy with her because I'd only just met her, and my confidence was low at the time. And I can't see how anybody, NT or not, can be as coherent in speech as they can be with the written word.....writing from a given source is generally more accurate, clear, concise, complete and coherent than the spoken word from the same person.

Much depends on the listeners. I was talking to one guy who just started looking really impatient every time I paused to think while I was talking. That threw my confidence slightly and I became less articulate.

This is how I am too.

I think I am about the same, which is not very talkative.

Hell no. This site is one of my main ways of communication.

No, not at all . I cannot talk in group. (By group I mean more than one ). I am able to with one person. (Would tire myself up by it a lot and, probably, would sound unnatural and out of way anyway, but would try). I guess I would try (if having a good day) to talk at least a tiny little bit in group with 2 other people too, providing they were friends, but it would be extremly difficult and woul anyway talk just to one at the time. (Cannot ever figure out who to look at, who´s turn to speak it is and why am I there at all..). I think it corelates somehow with my visual difficulties too. I would say the prosopagnosia binds to autistic disordes often, does it not?

I talk the same amount on and off WP. I'm more open with my friends than I am with my parents, due to my upbringing.

In real life if it is talking to people I know, or people I feel comfortable with, I would be pretty much the same, perhaps a bit more communicative.
Sometimes I am not so talkative in real life though, I definately wasn't during depressive periods, yet I was more talkative online.

It depends on who I am talking too and what were talking about. With friends or my parents I feel comfortable and can have just kind of making small talk and such... I think they my friends and parents at least kind of 'get' me and I don't feel like I have to worry about what I say as much. Around strangers I can really only have conversations if it about one of my interests. I can also be talkative in small groups if there is one thread of conversation going on, but if the group splits into two different conversations I pretty much stop talking.

In general though I would say I don't talk much. I talk much more online here on WP and with some people in chat... though thats mostly talking about special interests.

absolutely not, to me turning off the computer is like stepping out of church; your consuming back in reality, you feel free to be yourself again. but the internet is a great use for entertainment though, and a bit of research here and there. that's all it takes for me to live my life.

i know i'm different then the rest of you, but that's why i'm here, cause i thought we were all from a Wrong Planet, though the results may vary ... but i'm glad to stay for the odd posts, that i can relate to.

It really depends for me. Most times I do not talkmuch at all but if it is in my areas of expertise I generally will dominate a conversation. When people talk about comics I will talk for hours but if the conversation goes in another direction I don't really talk at all.

I also do a lot of public speaking but when people want to talk to me afterwards I really can't communicate unless it is a question I am prepared for.