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liloleme
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05 Sep 2008, 4:31 pm

I have this habit of smiling and or laughing all the time....regardless of how I feel. Im kind of like that woman in the movie Motzart and the Whale....the one that is smiling ALL the time....ok Im not that bad, but still. All my life people have always told me how happy I look and said things like "I wish I could be so happy"...........OK UMMMMM, Im not really that happy people :evil:
I think I show two emotions....happy and volcano (what my husband calls my angry spells). Since my diagnosis I have been told by family and friends that I express minimal body language or that it is neutral and that Im either smiling or I look like I just stubbled my toe (pained expression). Its funny people always ask me if Im OK when Im fine and no one notices when Im dying inside. I guess I used to blame other people....they are insensitive or mean. Its actually a two way street. I dont understand NT emotion and nonverbal communication and they dont understand mine. A simple concept I know but its funny when youve been on this earth for 41 years and you just now come to all this realization.



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05 Sep 2008, 4:34 pm

awh well.. i know the feeling... people alwayys assume things.. if people appear too happy on the outside though they never are.. no one can be happy 100% because humans are meant to go from one feeling to the other.. one moment you have a good thought and the next you have a negative one.. just think about this throughout the day and you'll see that it's true.



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05 Sep 2008, 5:13 pm

I guess what I really mean to say is that I find it strange that my whole life Ive not only been misunderstood by others but actually misunderstood by myself. Sorry, focusing on details and forgetting the big picture.



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05 Sep 2008, 5:36 pm

Ohh.. well that makes a certain sense i suppose.. sorry to hear that.. but now you can start from scratch now that you know yourself better :)



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05 Sep 2008, 10:06 pm

I hate when people say that I'm always laughing. I used to be so depressed and yet people would always make fun of me for "laughing" all the time. Sort of like that Israeli politician Ehud Olmert who Clinton called Chuckles cuz he usually had on a strong smile.

I'm embarassed by my smile that's plastered on me. Yeah, like the woman in Mozart & the Whale.



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05 Sep 2008, 10:20 pm

Oh I can relate to you, I smile and laugh a lot too. I don't really have any advice I guess we are just unable to let others in so we put up a mask without noticing it.



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05 Oct 2008, 3:57 pm

I've written this in several other topics on the theme, I have social anxiety so extreme that I either smile all the time or I have tounge-clicking tics. I've nearly been beaten up and I've been threathened for it several times.
Is there a name for this symptom?



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05 Oct 2008, 4:23 pm

liloleme wrote:
I have this habit of smiling and or laughing all the time....regardless of how I feel. Im kind of like that woman in the movie Motzart and the Whale....the one that is smiling ALL the time....ok Im not that bad, but still. All my life people have always told me how happy I look and said things like "I wish I could be so happy"...........OK UMMMMM, Im not really that happy people :evil:
I think I show two emotions....happy and volcano (what my husband calls my angry spells). Since my diagnosis I have been told by family and friends that I express minimal body language or that it is neutral and that Im either smiling or I look like I just stubbled my toe (pained expression). Its funny people always ask me if Im OK when Im fine and no one notices when Im dying inside. I guess I used to blame other people....they are insensitive or mean. Its actually a two way street. I dont understand NT emotion and nonverbal communication and they dont understand mine. A simple concept I know but its funny when youve been on this earth for 41 years and you just now come to all this realization.


Could have written that myself. I'm generally very happy, but on the rare occasions when I'm not I'm in what you call volcano (great word for it) and everyone within 50 feet should watch out, haha.

I hate the way I always get asked if I'm ok. My partner of three and a half years is about the only one who understands that even if I look upset, if I say I'm ok I am ok! I don't mean to look upset, apparently I just do. He says I have three channels; neutral, happy, and psycho-mad-woman. I can deal with that. ;)


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