stuck in pause while everything is in fast forward???

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so i notice that everything i do, everywhere i go, everytime i wake up, i feel like im just never going to change or grow up, and i watch the world pass me by all the time, watch ppl grow up, move on, while im still sitting there flapping spinning my body in circles. I just sometimes feel like everything just is happening so fast, and like im constantly in slow mode, or stuck on pause while everything else is in fast forward. Does anybody else feel like this?

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I know exactly what you mean. People you went to school with buying houses, getting married, having kids, while you sit there wondering why you're life has always been stuck in a halt.

Check out the post I made titled "newer things just don't seem right" I feel the same way you do sometimes, as I notice certain things in the world that I don't think should really change, because the original seemed perfect. As the world changes and these things pass me by, I feel like I am in "paused" mode while the world is not just in play mode, but in FFWD mode. I'm only 34, but I'm always asking "Why can't I get "X" product anymore, it worked great, why did it go away?1>!" My own age suprises me... I'm not supposed to be this old, I'm an older teen, a college guy,

For me, it seems like I just left high school yesterday, and all the teenagers out there are still listening to the same music and wearing the same clothes that I did when I was in high school. The crazy thing about it is that the kids that are entering high school this semester were BORN my senior year...we are a whole generation apart! I see people I've known for years that are getting gray hair and gaining weight. People that used to be very energetic and "cool" that now take it easy and sit around...people that, while they were adults when I was a kid, were my role models, and they were never supposed to grow "old" like my grandparents and slow down and not be in the now anymore.

Uh I think I do I'm not sure. I would describe how I feel sometimes as a "fog state" basically family:hey did you hear me Me:uh oh sure whatever etc. Basically my mind is on other things sadly usually the College Suspension but that happen in Feb.05 and the Psychiatrist I've dealt with hasn't helped and family doesn't care at times it has been nearly 4 years! but I don't care. How I'm going to deal with it I'm not 100% sure my "dream" would be to be able to fix the issue and since going back in time is not an option LOL! going back to the teacher I upset and stating my side of the issue would suffice. If that's impossible then possibly an enjoyable job and getting back in College. but sadly EMPHASIZE THE WORD DREAM! (If it'll ever happen is a HUGE ? MARK!)

That's also one of our barriers in relationships. Other people go to bed and get up at a certain time, and they have goals that change quickly as they go through different phases, right on time. It seems to me that time goes by too quickly, and if you don't do everything juuust right and with the right timing, you're out. That's why only about 1% of the general population earn Ph.D.s or take the time to learn anything else of value and why we breed at such an alarming rate, because we live in a "ready, fire, aim!" world.

Objectively, I can see that my situation has changed from last year, or past years in my surroundings (literally) and I have learned more.

But I'm still basically the same person from when I was a freshman in high school ~5 years ago

I know how you feel. I feel stuck in pause mode too.
I just want to grow up!!

I know exactly what you are feeling, Age1600! I want to grow up so bad, but I feel stuck. I know I can change (and I know in my heart I have potential), but as everyday goes by, I feel like I will never change. I want to SO BAD!! It is something I yearn for.

I am already 2 years older than when my brother had his first child at 23. He is now married and expanding at the middle. Sometimes I feel I'm going to die alone, when all my friends are having kids, and not married... I feel as though I'm in the same race people have already finished and I'm struggling to find the finish line

I know several different situation like that, I'm just going to post both because I'm not sure if the second is relevant or if the first is actually really meant.

For one, I do feel like that about life in general so far. I don't feel as if I have grown up with the same speed as all those other people my age. I didn't feel as if I changed. But yet I perceive all my peers as so drastically changed by time alone.

Another situation in which I feel as if I'm paused is when I can't keep to my routines. If that happens, my mind suddenly almost stops working. I become super slow. Everything else seems to move at an insane speed then.

I'm going to annoy alot of people with this bit of advice, I know it always annoyed me in the past. But the only way to hit the play button is to push yourself out of your comfort zone.

I was definitely stuck in a rut, not going anywhere. I'm now married to a lovely lady, but I had to move from England to California to be with her. It was such a struggle to reconcile making such a huge leap of faith into the dark, I've lost count of the number of hours I spent in mental anguish trying to choose between the easy life staying where I was (and had been since I was about 15!) and doing something I'd vever, ever contemplated before. I'm really glad I did choose to do something out of the ordinary, as far as I'm concerned: I have a social life that I never had before; we have a modest but cosy apartment; though the economic situation is tough, I'm feeling more confident than I have for a long, long time. Things aren't perfect, I still have trouble getting outside the front door, or doing some things that I don't feel comfortable with, but at least I've given myself the opportunity to change my life.

And to those in their early 20s: wait until you're approaching 30 before you start worrying about growing up. I was like that in my late teens and 20s, worrying that everyine else was living life while I was out of it. When I got to 30 and nothing had changed, I realised I'd wasted my 20s worrying, and should have just done things, or at least have tried to do things.

I know this whole post just sounds like the typical "pull yourself together and just do it" advice, but I promise you the effort is worth it.

Age1600 you utter my words exactly - yet I adore being this way. I work very fast at my business yet also can 'plane' out. I never feel as if I've done enough each day, yet concentration problems at home / evenings are a problem. Sorry - thoughts are a bit skew-wiff tonight.

I also have the problem whereby the hands of the clock are whizzing round and I even feel panicky as to why they do that. Anyone?