Help....I can't measure the logic of life

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...I don't know whats wrong with me, but i think alot. It seems like for every logic, there is a counter-logic that refutes the first logic.

My problem is thinking about my life and trying to put things into perspective, nothing makes any sense.

* for example, I did something wrong in a social situation. Im thinking about it and it makes me feel really bad. Logic #1 dont beat yourself up, that makes you worse. But logic # 2 is I have to know what I did wrong so I can learn from my mistakes, even if it means grilling myself a little bit.
I cant really find a balance between the 2. I feel like id either ignore the problem and be uneducated or obsess over the problem to where it hinders me even more.

does this make sense?

yes . i think the best thing to do is try to find a balance between the two, think about what you've done but dont beat yourself up about it too mutch . inevitably its these things that shape you to be a better person, or so im told. .

its so hard to be balanced though. It seems like Im always on one extreme or the other.

I always feel I am trying to decide a balance and what is right and wrong, it is impossible to make decisions, but it affects me a lot. I suspect a lot of NT's work on emotion but people like us work more on yes/no logic and this is where it becomes harder. As some say life is just what you make of it so maybe best dont punish yourself over things like this.

lightening020,
this is how I deal with it:
1. recognize when I have done something that is 'unacceptable' or 'inappropriate' to NTs
2. analyze exactly what I did
3. refuse to 'beat myself up over it'
4. work out what I could have done instead
5. when a similar situation arises, choose whether to respond the same way as before, or in the way that I believe NT's expect
6. feel angry with NTs for being so intolerant and ignorant .

'right' and 'wrong' do not even enter the picture.