Give your definition of what aspergers is

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I'm a straight forward person and I like to be that way with other people. I want to be able to explain why I may act weird or act really quiet at times. So Im asking yall how would you go about telling somebody that you have aspergers with the most simple but understandable definition of what it is. I think it would be best for me to tell people that im comforable with about it rather than hide who I am especially in a work environment.

Like really I need yall help so please leave a reply cuz you might help out others in my situation also.

Aspergers varies so much that it is impossible to simplify it into one sentence.

The only way you could tell people, would be just to say "Im different".

I just found this and I like it. Aspie Characteristics

"My brain's wired a bit differently."

"I'm eccentric."

Here's another suggestion: be very specific. Don't worry about explaining Asperger's, just say the specific stuff you need them to know.

"I'm not really good at figuring people out. Please just tell me instead of hinting; I probably wouldn't get it."

"That smell really bothers me. Could we put a fan in the window?"

"Yeah, I have a habit of flicking my fingers when I'm bored." (Or whatever stim, whatever reason.)

"I'd feel much better if I knew exactly what was on the agenda today." or "Could you tell me what to expect?"

"I haven't heard that figure of speech. What do you mean?"

"I talk too much about [my special interest] sometimes. Just stop me if I bore you; I won't get offended."

I love this!

How cool to see a positive spin on AS traits instead of presenting them as problems or a disease to be cured!

Unless you’re talking to very exceptional people you can just forget about a

definition as far as the average person goes. Not even the most closest people in my life understand it. Believe me I tried to explain it, I really did. Furthermore I believe that there are many types of Asperger’s and that most have not yet been discovered. I can define what my type of Asperger’s is after a lifetime of trying to figure it out if you want but I don’t think it’s going to help you.

I describe it as an inability to communicate with girly types.

that's being a man

j/k.

A lack of social and emotional reciprocity, and an all-absorbing single interest.

That's it.

I am not quite ready for this, what could turn into a very interesting discussion - to which i will be wanting to contribute;
therefor i am responding to create a sort of bookmark, to return to in the hopefully not so distant future

I am phrasing what follows carefully, based on my own thinking &
critical intuition while reading up on the subject; while looking back
also at all sorts of 'symptoms' in my past - before self-diagnosing &
getting it confirmed

These 'symptoms' include things like taste, philosophical attitude, choices made, chances wasted (why, forgodsakewhy), talents & pitfalls, a (vague)
literary ambition with suitable self-observation and self-analysis -
and always the awareness of 'no, it doesn't fit, it's just not me'
and always at least the shadow of boredom hidden in the soul
- something is wrong

Something is also wrong in the present analysis of what autism is - the mere fact that the theorists require the presentation of a TRIADE of (behavioural) shortcomings, indicates to me that there MUST be a central theme to bind the three required elements:
problems in (1) social interaction (2) communication (3) imagination

What is the difference, for that matter, between 1-2?
Or, don't 1 and 2 require 3; i.e. could it be 3, expressing itself in 1/2?

And then, recently, i got hold of M. Delfos, A Strange World,
and found a genuine attempt to come to deeper understanding than
for instance Attwood, Gillberg, Peeters, Vermeulen, Frith
(although Uta Frith already points into the direction of similar thought)

I would now venture to say:

autism is a (developmental) disorder of the brain,
which leads to an underdeveloped (incomplete) 'self';


a weak self (& a weak sense of self - self-awareness) results in a problematic imagination; which consequentially affects all
forms of contact (first with 'self', subsequentially with others)

- obviously, these forms of contact include linguistic communication -

In one sentence: autism is a contact disorder


PS:
my intuition has always been that i somehow lacked contact with myself;
which i also noticed in an apparant lack of emotive awareness - it was in fact the concept of alexthymia the set me off on the final track of my long long journey to this then unknown goal of self-diagnosis

I would tell people "I have a complex learning disability that means my way of thinking and reactions are different from the average person. It also means I am contempt at being alone and as a result will work more efficiently my way in comparison to the expected."

Everything with NTs is theatre so I think it best to just say something that's a bit of a joke.

A variance in the connections within the brain,such that instead of being 'pre-programmed'
to live instinctively,especially in social situations,the use of logic and reasoning is the default
mode in learning what actions should be taken.

"I'm different," would be a good summary.

For me, it means I have interests unusual both in type and intensity.

I am very good at my work, which requires me to be organized, follows a predictable pattern and requires a knowledge of the entire library.

The drawback of my AS is that I tend to do dumb things, even though I'm not stupid. I also tend to get nervous in certain situations.

Aspeger's syndrome is not disease or sickness it is a a natural manifestation of how my brain works.