my kids are NT, I think I'm close to an aspie

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Hi!

I've had such a hard time parenting and I never knew quite why. I have entertained lots of possibilities: that my kids have issues that make them hard to parent, that I wasn't getting enough social support, that I worked when the kids were small and this affected bonding, that my mood was too low. None of those explanations really panned out. Now I realize that I'm pretty close to aspergers on the spectrum, but maybe just an nerd with a one track mind and little social skill. I have been looking on the internet for resources for parents who themselves have aspergers and I can't find much. So much is devoted to NTs who are parenting kids with aspergers. Can anyone direct me to the kinds of resources I'm looking for?

Thanks

the is a parenting forum here. you will find good advice and people there too.just navigate and familiarise yourself with the site and post a question.

Yah, but the parenting forum is for people parenting aspie and autie kids. For me, its the other way around.

Asperger's syndrome is genetic. Which means that if the child has it, then most likely the parent (usually the father) will also have it. So, when you read the posts by the parents on the children's forum, most of them will either have AS themselves, or be married to people with AS. So, you could ask the parents there how they (or their autistic spouse) deal with their non-AS children, you should get the answers you are hoping for.

Isn't there anything a little more direct?

How much more direct do you want it?

Just go to the parent's forum, and type in something like:

Title:
Help, my child is normal!

Text:
I figure that there are probably quite a few parents here who have AS, or are married to people with AS. So, I want to ask, how many of you autistic parents happen to have a child who is normal (remember, their autistic child will probably have siblings). Could you please send me a PM (personal message) so that we could talk about raising a normal child when you have AS. I would like to find out what does and doesnt work in this situation. Thank you for your help.

My NT grown kids finally know why they have a weird mom and when newcomers ask about me, they sigh and say, That's just the way she is. One gave me a birthday card a few months back that had a figure yelling MOM! and inside the card it said, I just wanted to see if you could still jump. He thinks it's hilarious how easily and violently I startle, and how I never recognize his friends and need to ask over and over who they are. The other adores my strengths and we work on novels together. Another one says she doesn't want to explain things to me anymore. A daughter-in-law tries to explain the rules and set me straight and says her husband was socially ret*d because I homeschooled him. I love her and she really is a wonderful person, so I let remarks like that go.

I think Tracker gave you great advice.

well these kids grow up and have children and become AS parents as well.
i am one too.

Help! My kids are Neurotypical! topic

There is also a thread in Members Only Discussion (A Sticky) concerning AS Parents, started by Ouinon. You could check in there. I think it is a good place to let it all hang out.

Ahhhh, I see it. Thank you so much. It's just what I was looking for.