Still want to play?

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I realised recently that although I am probably more mature than others my age about some things, I am still very immature in other ways. I realised recently that I still have a deep need to play. Going to the cinema or a café with someone is okay and enjoyable, but I want to run around and hide and play with sticks and stones and leaves and laugh and dance. But I can't. Because everyone else has grown up in that respect and I have no one to play with and would be seen as very very odd if I tried to play.

Am I alone in feeling this?

You're not alone. I'm 50+ years of age, and I sometimes wish that I had my own sandbox to play in...

Nope, I play around and dress up and jump and sharpen sticks and throw them and run laps around the house and throw balls at people and fight people off in giant battles and countless other things. Although I am probably younger then you.
Otherwise I would rather socialize (the little bits I do) and talk to adults. Kids my age do the stupidest things and talk about the stupidest things (for the most part).

I do.

I always play with my son in the snow in winter, we bury each other in the snow and roll on it like puppies. People smile watching us

Heck no. I really think a lot of adults have that--why would there be video games and paintball arenas and amusement parks if it weren't that a lot of people still like to play? And why should you need any of those things to play, anyway?

I love playing.

no you are not alone , I do feel the same

and I don't know how people put such measures of how grown ups would act!!

Sometimes I feel the same, even if I really didn't do much THEN. I DID like the teeter totter, the slide, swings, etc....

I think Aspies are a lot like all gifted people, most of them NTs, who because of their accelerated intellectual development concentrate on that area rather than their emotional development. So they are intellectually advanced but emotionally ret*d, and often don't understand why people their age find certain things, like boys or socializing at coffee shops, interesting.

Otherwise, I love to play. I recently rediscovered blocks, and enjoy them greatly. (The only problem is that many of them are the same color but different shapes, as well as different variations on the same shape - red rectangles of the same length but different thickness, for instance. Maddening.) I would much rather play than sit around and talk. Although playing and talking at the same time is the best.

I am still very much a child mentally, though. In terms of mental development (social and emotional understanding), I am like someone who has been stuck at eight years old for ten years.

You need to start LARPing. Live Action Role Play. My 26 yr old son and 30 year old niece love to go into the woods with others in costumes and fight with padded swords and bags of birdseed. I want to go too, but since my niece is my daughter's companion provider, I need to wookie-sit so she can go. Grumble, grumble. My husband would watch our daughter, but he will not bathe a thirty yr old woman.

And then there's paintball. It is so fun on teams. Too bad I'm such an awful shot.

Playing is great! Many adults (if not most) still enjoy playing. There are many adult options of play available to you (as others have pointed out) as well as actually playing with a child/children. Both are acceptable by societies standards and quite frankly, kids seem to love it when an adult takes time to play with them.

I personally will just randomly do something because I feel like it. It embarasses some people and it lightens the mood for others. There is nothing wrong with being an adult and wanting to play.

That sounds a lot like me!! !

nothing wrong with that. adults need fun too.



so if you want to play, go ahead and do it! laser tag is fun, i like playing it... it works like paintball except you wear computer vests and getting shot doesn't hurt.

*takes out legos* these things are amazing, man.

You are not immature.
And it's not an Aspie thing.
It's what separates the intelligent animals from the lower.