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ShadesOfMe
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15 Nov 2005, 9:52 pm

I HATE MY STEPDAD! he's absolutely disgusting! He refuses to wash his hands after he goes to the bathroom it's nasty! and I was laying relaxing on the couch and he started to wipe his nasty hands on me after going to the bathroom! and I asked him to stop and he kept doing it! so I got mad and told him that he wasn't respecting me! and he starts yelling about me and all My bad Hygiene! he starts comparing his preparing food after going to the bathroom and not washing his hands and his just plain not washing them and touching me, to my room and my computer! he started telling my mom that I was lying on the ouch being a total slob and he started to call me names. now my mom has called him an @ss hole, he yelleld and she left the house.



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15 Nov 2005, 10:06 pm

sounds like...

your stepdad is the devil :twisted:

is there a place in your house where you can get away for at least a bit until things calm down?



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15 Nov 2005, 10:28 pm

I hate my step dad. He puts his feet on on the table all the time and sometimes he doesnt take his shoes off.



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15 Nov 2005, 10:37 pm

My dad is a moron. But in the somewhat-lovable oaf way.

Think of a 40-something version of the Thing from the Fantastic Four. :D



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16 Nov 2005, 12:28 am

sounds like a jeark



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16 Nov 2005, 2:27 am

ShadesOfMe wrote:
I HATE MY STEPDAD! he's absolutely disgusting! He refuses to wash his hands after he goes to the bathroom it's nasty! and I was laying relaxing on the couch and he started to wipe his nasty hands on me after going to the bathroom! and I asked him to stop and he kept doing it! so I got mad and told him that he wasn't respecting me! and he starts yelling about me and all My bad Hygiene! he starts comparing his preparing food after going to the bathroom and not washing his hands and his just plain not washing them and touching me, to my room and my computer! he started telling my mom that I was lying on the ouch being a total slob and he started to call me names. now my mom has called him an @ss hole, he yelleld and she left the house.


My dad's ex was one nasty lady, although she had good hygiene. I suffer a lot of mental angish from her frequent insults, bullying and belittling. :evil:



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16 Nov 2005, 8:43 pm

arg! I never wanted him to be part of this family. one day he was just there. I was ok with him dating ehr, but moving in? NO! they aren't even technically married, but they consider themselves marrried. UH! I hate him! I never asked for him to be part of our family, to come in and ruin everything!



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16 Nov 2005, 9:06 pm

He sounds like my step dad.



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16 Nov 2005, 10:57 pm

I don't think that having bad hygeine makes one a jerk. I understand that some of you might be fanatical about some things, but really, there are worse characteristics to have.



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17 Nov 2005, 1:29 am

If you really want to get rid of him, the next time he puts his hands on you and refuses to stop after being told not to touch you, or even if he threatens to touch you after being told not to, call the sherrifs station and report that he assaulted you.

Wikipedia wrote:
At common law, assault is the tort of acting with the intention of causing harmful or offensive contact with another person, or imminent apprehension of such contact, which results in that other person being in put in a state of apprehension.

As distinguished from battery, assault does not involve actual contact, it only needs intent and the resulting apprehension.

While the law varies by jurisdiction, contact is often defined as "harmful" if it objectively intends to injure, disfigure, impair, or cause pain. The act is deemed "offensive" if would offend a reasonable person’s sense of personal dignity. While "imminence" is judged objectively and varies widely on the facts, it generally suggests there is little to no opportunity for intervening acts. Lastly, the state of "apprehension" should be differentiated from the general state of fear, as apprehension requires only that the person be aware of the imminence of the harmful or offensive act.


Since you're a minor and female, you will get to wave goodbye as he gets taken off in handcuffs. You will have to be ready to take a lot of flack from your mom for your actions though.



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17 Nov 2005, 1:54 am

stlf wrote:
sounds like...

your stepdad is the devil :twisted:

is there a place in your house where you can get away for at least a bit until things calm down?

There's Great Satan and Little Satan. Maybe her stepfather is merely the Little Satan and not the "real" devil.

Just a thought.



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17 Nov 2005, 7:47 pm

My step-dads back. The living room smelled like cigarettes so bad I almost got knocked out. :evil:



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18 Nov 2005, 2:24 pm

I use to role play with a man who would stick his hands down his pants and scratch him self then pick up my dice to roll and he could not figger out why I got mad at him for using my dice **shudder** people can be pigs


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18 Nov 2005, 5:50 pm

Shades,

From reading your post I get the impression life has handed you a challenge to maintain your dignity and self-esteem in a way that leaves you to your own devices. In my book, the way this guy is acting is unacceptable.

Now I'm not familiar with the dynamics of your family and how your loved ones approach an issue of this sort, but it looks like your mother is mostly powerless to do anything about such a lecher. If it was my daughter getting touched and treated like that, I would be the first to intervene in ways I'd rather not mention here.

If that continues, you could go through the police like irishmic says but from what I've seen and what I've experienced, I wouldn't be too reliant on that. Would you think about taking some lessons in self defence or assault prevention? A guy like that needs to be put in his place.


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18 Nov 2005, 9:29 pm

Now my step dad fixed the computer and said I cant touch anything when it shuts down and I told him I know how to shut it down and he said Im a computer genius. Im not a computer genius so he was being mean. And he keeps saying the computer problems are because of me. I DONT DO ANYTHING TO IT.



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27 Nov 2005, 5:39 pm

I don't think step-dads understand us very well. and he also has this weird habit of talking to me in baby talk. :cry: I ahve told him over and over that I don't like it, but he never stops! My mom says it's just his way of being "friendly" but I don't like it, and he knows it makes me angry, so why does he still do it???