Happy Aspies?

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Are any Aspies on this site happy with their lives? If so, what do you identify as the key to your happiness?

I honestly think my son is happy. So far.

1) He is high functioning / lightly affected
2) He has had the opportunity to see his gifts gain positive results
3) He has been befriended by a popular child in school who eases the way on many things
4) He does not naturally suffer from depression
5) He is not OCD
6) I'm a total mama bear when it comes to what I think he needs and how he should be treated
7) His elementary school was really good
8 ) We've been able to keep our family life at a calmer level, more suitable to someone with AS

I'm happy with my life. I'd say the key to my joy comes from God's gift of faith in his son Christ. Learning about Aspergers is my dessert. I discovered my being an Aspie when I was 52 and it was only a few years back from then when I finally became assured of my salvation. My life before those changes was filled with a lot of unhappiness, because my perspectives were totally different.

Now I enjoy who I am and love knowing that I no longer have to keep trying to 'fit in' anywhere to be with anyone. So many things make sense now that didn't used to. The best part is that I like who I have become and it no long bothers me that other people can't see what they're missing out on by not becoming acquainted with me.

Accepting myself for who I am.
Working at improving skills.
Sharpening skills I have.
Laughing at Society in general.
Prayer.
Sobriety.

I am pretty happy with my life.

I am lucky enough to be able to live outside my proverbial shell.

I finally know that if I mess up, it is better to rectify my actions than to let it slide. Either I'll apologize for my socially awkward mess-ups, or Ill work hard not to make that same mistake again. This constant process of learning and seeing results has made me pretty happy. I'm working everyday to become more proficient at living in the world, which is exciting as it is.

I've also reached a point in my life where I've just stopped caring about how others percieve me, as well as learning not to see Asperger's as a disability, but as a unique way of seeing the world. Learning to cherish what goes on inside of your head is a very large part of this. If you spend some time really thinking, you can see how beautiful the world can truly be.

no not happy with my life at all.

My family has helped a lot. Especially my nerotypical older brother, whose helped me in the social scene. In return I've inspired him to go into abnormal psychology (I won't claim sole credit here, there was at least one other person).

More recently my own philosophical views have helped. I created my own school of thought and stuck to it. This school of thought can be summed up in the following 3 points:

1. You are who you choose to be, never be afraid to make that choice
2. There is too much hate in this world, never add to it
3. Anger is never the best option, do what must be done, but act with purpose and never malice

There's a lot more to it then that. But the point is that this has helped me more then anything else.

I'd stab myself.

It depends on my mood. But basicly i would be lieing if i said i was.

Read my post in the "Getting to know each other" forum that i wrote today with a subject of "An aspie and not particularly pround of it". (Unforunately this forum won't let me post URLs yet).

If you can find an NT who knows something about AS and will be a friend to you it helps a lot, I agree. This sorta happened to me and it was better than not having a friend at all.
The NTs who know about AS and what it means could be good friends.

I am very happy with my life.

Since when?

February 2, 2008.



Why?

The love of my life, of course.
For once, somebody accepts and appreciates me for exactly who I am, and doesn't expect me to change to conform to what qualifies as "the norm".

He is not Aspie, but, thank goodness, he is not NT either.

Yes. The key, one key?

Jesus Christ my Lord and Saviour

A supportive and loving husband

My two bang-my-head-against-the-wall daughters became adults and moved out.

Yes, I'm happy with my life. I've always been a positive person, I tend to enjoy simple pleasures, I have been very lucky in my life (survived a 1-in-20 million brain aneurysm with little damage), I am in constant awe at the way nature works. The only thing I constantly pursue is knowledge. Perhaps aspiness helps in that I don't look to others for my fulfillment, even though I love my husband very much. Many people I know seem to need others to "complete" them and seem to be constantly disappointed by the lack of cooperation of the "others". I guess I just enjoy other people for what they are in themselves and don't expect miracles from them. Yikes--it kind of sounds like I could summarize this by saying "low expectations" (but that is not what I mean).

I definently wouldn't say I'm happy, perhaps I will never be for the sole reason that I have AS (no offense to you all) but I'm content.

I am what I am and I've learned to deal with that. I'm able to hold a job, so I guess that's enough to keep me content with my life.