Sometimes do you want to be like them(NTs), why?

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Taly
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09 Oct 2008, 2:08 pm

I have wanted to be like them so I would stopped being teased, tricked and lied to, not because I actually thought they were interesting or cool when I was in highschool. Recently, I have been curious yes, I even tried to dress up different "I use the same colours and similatr clothes since age 14", so I bought clothes that were weird but "cool" and it made me feel like a fool. I wanted to be myself but at the same time I didn't want to be pressured by teachers or mocked by class-mates during school. I've been overcoming this in college, I don't want to be like them, really. I would love to "study" and "observe" them, I observed how girls behaved so I'd behave like a lady, but in the end it didn't work out. It's like it's April's fool everyday and I am the fool, but I have changed and think that being fool may be cool.

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09 Oct 2008, 2:12 pm

there's times when I wish I was more like them- more ignorant and oblivious of the world's problems, happy with my own little life and not striving for something bigger.

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09 Oct 2008, 2:29 pm

yeah ignorance is the only thing they have that i wouldnt mind having

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09 Oct 2008, 2:36 pm

Somehow, I don't think it'd be much easier once you got to a certain point. Many of our social problems plague nuerotypicals as well.
It'd be nice though. Even if autism isn't a curse, the label itself has made me afraid to even try socializing in the past.

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09 Oct 2008, 2:56 pm

Very specifically,
I obsessively admire their traits that make them NOT INVOLUNTARILY CELIBATE.

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09 Oct 2008, 3:00 pm

Maybe ... sometimes ... it would be nice to have a "Norman Rockwell" style family get-together during the holidays ... otherwise, no.

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09 Oct 2008, 3:02 pm

I thought that I was NT until this week. Surprise! :lol:

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09 Oct 2008, 3:07 pm

Well, welcome aboard the Aspie spaceship then SoulDriven.

I don't want to be like the NS, but I wish I could manipulate them. They're a thousand times better than me at manipulation, though.

(NS = Neurostandard)

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09 Oct 2008, 3:16 pm

I used to want to be like them, now I really don't care because I have learnt to be happy in my own skin.

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09 Oct 2008, 3:24 pm

From years and years of experiences with NTs - I would HATE to be like them. Of course there are exceptions, but in general I have found them to be selfish, manipulative, fake, shallow, deceitful, greedy, intolerant, ignorant, and downright rude.

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09 Oct 2008, 3:35 pm

I wish that social interaction didn't tire me out so much. Some days, I come home exhausted because I had to interact too much - or there was too much going on around me that I couldn't shut out.

Otherwise, I value whatever it is in my head that makes me think in a different manner from NTs.

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09 Oct 2008, 3:41 pm

SoulDriven wrote:

I thought that I was NT until this week. Surprise! :lol:

How did you find that?

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09 Oct 2008, 3:47 pm

Kelsi wrote:

selfish, manipulative, fake, shallow, deceitful, greedy, intolerant, ignorant, and downright rude.

illogical, phony, passive-aggressive, whiteliars, materialistic, cliche-lovers, hierarchy suckers, social power admirers, diversity fraidcats, noise seekers, peacefulness aversive

*pauses for air*

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09 Oct 2008, 4:51 pm

Greentea wrote:

Kelsi wrote:

selfish, manipulative, fake, shallow, deceitful, greedy, intolerant, ignorant, and downright rude.

illogical, phony, passive-aggressive, whiteliars, materialistic, cliche-lovers, hierarchy suckers, social power admirers, diversity fraidcats, noise seekers, peacefulness aversive

*pauses for air*

I agree with both of you. There are exceptions, of course, but the majority are as you both describe. This is based on years of experience for me also. And like Kelsi, I would HATE to be like that.

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09 Oct 2008, 6:26 pm

Quote:

Kelsi wrote:
selfish, manipulative, fake, shallow, deceitful, greedy, intolerant, ignorant, and downright rude.

greentea wrote:
illogical, phony, passive-aggressive, whiteliars, materialistic, cliche-lovers, hierarchy suckers, social power admirers, diversity fraidcats, noise seekers, peacefulness aversive

*pauses for air*

KaliMa wrote:
I agree with both of you. There are exceptions, of course, but the majority are as you both describe. This is based on years of experience for me also. And like Kelsi, I would HATE to be like that.

I think that the NTs that I bother to actually get to know are nice, caring, unselfish, intelligent, very creative imaginations, polite, friendly, and are very good people as far as I am concerned. There are not just few exceptions but many. I do know some NTs like that though, I would add annoying to the list.

No offence, but I think classifying them like that is not any different then what they say and think about those on the autistic spectrum (Rainman, Einstein, etc.)

Last edited by Aguila on 09 Oct 2008, 6:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

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09 Oct 2008, 6:33 pm

You got the quotes wrong, you swapped between what Kelsi and I wrote.

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