Appreciating life

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Does anyone else find that aspergers prevents them from appreciating certain things in life or do you find it allows you to appreciate it more. Also is this any different from NT's or do they have trouble appreciating things as well. An example would be, I put on a big event recently for our school and while i appreciate that it went well, i feel i may not appreciate it as much as i should have. Does this have to do with Aspergers or is this natural.

it all depends. mood, situation, day. even what i had to eat has an effect on how i feel. if im only eating top ramen and oatmeal im usually pissy. and quite distressed about my food situation causing me to look at the entire day negatively

My vote is for more. And if that's a faulty, subjective judgement, it sure is hard to tell sometimes. It sure feels like I feel it more.

I'm not sure that it's an aspie thing though. My first impression is that it's a personal sensitivity thing. But then, that may, in fact, be an aspie thing right there and just me not attributing it correctly.

This post may be confusing. I'm still on my first cup-o-coffee.

It really depends upon the day and upon how much I accept myself the way I am.

If I'm really down about myself, I don't appreciate much at all. I think this is probably true for everyone, NTs and Aspies.

If I accept myself and my being so different from most other people, I feel more alive. Like yesterday, I was taking a walk, and found myself smiling at little things all over the place. I felt like a kid who'd just been born, marvelling at all the cool stuff I was seeing, and really not caring whether anyone thought I was being grown-up or serious or any of that. It was quite wonderful.

I seem to have a kind of rational/mystical dialectic going on. Sometimes, I can think something to death, and can't appreciate much at all. At other times, my detachment from the NT social world helps me connect to the Great Mystery of it all in ways that are very unexpected.

It's an interesting life, isn't it?

For myself, I find myself appreciating things in life more than it seems others do, and I think it comes from the fact that my mind doesn't have the "filters" in place to disregard insignificant data, that can in fact be pleasurable at times. For example, walking down a city street, most people don't pay attention to the architecure of the buildings, but myself, I notice all the simple things, like the detail on a streetlight post. I am like this in natural locations too. I can sit down by a creek or lake and just watch all of nature from the bugs crawling around on the ground to the cloud formations above. It's nice sometimes, to just sit down wherever I am and just look at what's around. I see people in cities with headphones on, zoned out in their own world, and just think about all they are missing. Sometimes, yes all the information can cause me information overload, but lately, I've learned to manage the stress of heavy information intake by channeling it into positive things, for example, physical fitness.

I think we ALL have a tendency to take things for granted, I know I do and when I am having a really bad day I try to appreciate things and then I realize how blessed I really am.