I NEED HELP

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While I don't have aspergers, I very much believe that my boyfriend of a little over two years does. I have been doing a lot of research and he seems to have all the symptoms. I have been wanting to talk to him about it and don't know the best way to approach the topic. Does anyone here have any suggestions for me?

Start with the positive stereotypes first: Aspergers often = logical, intelligent etc.

Then say you think he might have it. People are more open to things if it's less of a blow to their egos.

i would suggest something a bit more evil. like, letting him read about it under a false pretense, ( do you think my nephew is like this?) and let him think it over. if no light bulb goes on , then he probably isn't, or he could be in denial, wait a year and try again lol....

That sounds tthe good approach - I wpould not say EVIL, just good old fashioned stealth.

Can you talk to him, though? Could you suggest both try one of the fun-quiz instruments? Significant Other H was always bringing fun quizzes for everybody to try out. As per ediself, if real and open recognition is likely.

First of all, dont call it aspergers please! that sounds like some funky disease. Call it High functioning autism, that sounds alot less threatening.

second, name drop. say, "hey dude i made a new friend and he has autism, he's a cool guy"
he will want to know more

third. pounce! have some really good sex with him and mention he might be autistic, guys will believe anything they are told while getting some nookie!

are u going 2 leave him?

You should stand behind him and support him. Let him know that you care about him. You should also tell him the positives of AS.