Simply cannot cope with physical contact

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I have AS. Almost every time anyone makes physical contact with me (like when someone grabs my arm or pats me on the back), I lash out and sometimes hurt the person. It took me a week to mentally prepare myself for physiotherapy.

Does anyone else have this? If so, how do you cope?

I usually tell the person not to touch me. similarly to you, I hate being touched and lash out, but not usually physically, usually I snap at them. I don't usually cope with it. I just very pointedly tell them to stop.

hate it when touch is unexpected.. I do not lash out tho.. more like cringe

when I know it is coming it is ok.. can handle it hten, but still no fun
it is fun during lovemaking tho

My friend knows that I don't like being touched but he has a major problem that he cannot learn from mistakes. So he has a few bruises.....I really didn't do that intentionally.

I dont like being touched. I usually tell people that I met that I dont like being touched. One of my male friends made the mistake of touching me a half an hour after he met me and I ended up picking him up and throwing him out of Tandy he now knows not to touch me unless he asks first. I have also given my male friends bruises over the years because they touched me and I have yelled at my female friends if they touched me . When I had a boyfriend he was careful to ask me if I wanted to be touched. I gave past boyfriends a few bruises. I dont like people coming close to me period. The only people who I can handle hugging me is my Mum, Dad and my little sister.

Don't touch me!

I hate being touched. Unless you are a swimsuit model, or a Playmate of the month I don't want you to touch me.

I don't mind being touched myself though i would prefer not to "melt into" a person when im sitting next to them.

I'm wondering here if the lot of you who hates physical contact are able to put your emotions aside since you're aware of it? Or is it more like ocd?

I hate being touched, no matter who it is. I'll stiffen or jerk away. If I see it coming I'll back off and avoid being near the person.
I'm not even comfortable being near anyone. My sense of personal space is bigger than most others.

Anyone touching someone they don't know or hardly know, might have boundary issues of their own.

Had a neighbour once who came home drunk. I hardly knew her, and didnt really like her, and she said something to me and put her arm around me. I jerked away forcefully and told her very clearly not to touch me, and included an F word (in Norwegian).
I didnt like her, I hate being touched and I hate drinking and drunkards who bother their surroundings. Perfect combo



@ Extractor: I'm not, nor do I want to set my emotions aside. I see no reason to. I am entitled to not be touched, seeing as that is my preference. It's my body, and boundaries aren't limited to sexuality.
The reaction is instantaneous, no matter how expected it might be.

Was the F word "Faen" by any chance?

Ofcourse you're entitled to not be touched. The problem with that though is that many people don't realise this which will sadly bring you discomfort.

There is one thing i don't enjoy though.. Nomather how hot the girl might be i despise holding hands unless i feel something for her and we are in or on the way to being in a relationship. I keep holding her hand though if thats what she wants though id rather just hold my hand around her waist or something.

I can't believe how many people I have offended by telling them not to touch me. People have also been pissed off when I pull away from them to avoid their touch.

I use to have a saying "They say if you touch yourself you will go blind, but I say you touch me I will blind you!"

My automatic reaction to anyone getting too close is to flinch- it's uncontrollable. I've never struck out and hit anyone, or knocked hands away or anything.
I can't stand anyone touching me, I can't stand stand anything touching me. Doctors and dentists appointments are particularly tricky- current hospital visits tricky as they are having to change the tests they do so I don't freak out!

I think those of us who have problems with people touching us have the advantage that anyone who knows a bit about autism knows that autistics don't like people touching them- the general stereotype.

I do not like people touching me. On the rare occasion in my life where I have been touched, I usually jerk away and loudly say "don't touch me".

Physiotherapy--ouch!

Extractor:

It's not emotional. It's physical. If you cut your finger with a knife, would I be right to tell you to put the "emotional" pain asside? No, ofcourse not, the pain is physical!

It feels like... lots of tiny shocks on my skin? You know how you burn yourself, after it stops burning, but feels sore?
It's horrible that friends and family refuse to believe me. But they've bedn accidentaly slapped, punched and yelled at me, I can't help it.

When they inssist in touching me I start to cower and shake in fear as if someone is torturing me.
Unfortunately, this makes people think I don't like them, which is not true! Often, they don't believe my explanation.

I can now handle touch better, but it must be heavy pressure, not gentle as others do. It must be as if a strong massage. My poor boyfriend can't caress me, I told him he must put heavy pressure and not move his hand.

It's kind of funny. People make fun of me why I can't handle things like the sound of a vaccum, a motorcycle, or a huge truck. They think I'm childish, but no, the sound litteraly shakes my body, and eventually makes me feel like I'll vomit. And sometimes I do if I can't get away from the sound.