Being different.. Does it make you happy or upset?

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As for me, I get so upset by the fact that people can't appreciate what I appreciate, and the things they do appreciate are just plain boring to me. It makes me frustrated. I can't share my fun with anyone.

On the other hand, I do NOT want to be like them.. I just want them to be more like me.. But what the hell can I do about it?

So ultimately it's just frustrating, but I don't want to change.

I like being different. I hated it as a kid because of the bullying and treatment I got but things are better now so I don't mind being different anymore. Now I feel normal.

Happy. I like being different

I hated myself because I was different. No one liked me and I couldn't understand why. Then I learned about AS, and everything made sense to me-- now I don't feel bad about it at all. It explained everything and now I'm okay with it.

Neither.
I am what I am.
Screw everyone else.

sometimes i love it. sometimes i loathe it.

It upsets me greatly that I am not accepted by others. However, I am happy with who I am. Everyone who doesn't like it, screw 'em. Accept me or leave me alone.

exactly.

what-ever!

Happy most of the time..it helps that I am surrounded by other "different" people.
I don't mind being an oddball, as much as I mind my executive dysfunctions and sensitivities.

So how do you people share your fun and interests with other people? Or do you simply not feel the need to do that? Do you annoy other people by talking to them about things that don't interest them?

Uhm well I've always had a select group of friends that I could talk to about 'weird' things. These days I only have my husband to talk to but it is enough most of the time. Sometimes he gets annoyed at me. But being here on WP has helped alot too! Cuz I can talk about lots of stuff and (mostly) not annoy people!

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Yep, I understand. In a way it is good you are conflicted about it, because it shows you care about others and how they are, when around you. But at the very end, you can only change yourself to a degree, after all there are things that give you purpose and meaning, which others might find baffling, why give those up?

I think it is a bit of a paradox. You want to be detached and yet not detached. In other words, you don't go out of your way to annoy people but, at the same time, if you are misunderstood I don't think you should be that concerened i.e. whatever people think of you, whether good or bad, is not the issue, however, at the same time, you keeping an integrity and a concern about the welfare of others is the moral imperative that should be considered as a virtue, and at all times. If you fulfill certain virtues through practice, to lead a purposeful life (in my opinion that purpose is a God given purpose), then if others do not understand and will judge, then don't concern yourself.

Hope that makes sense?

I don't feel the need to share my interests anymore as I've been ridiculed for that so many times before. some people like to explore the same ideas as me though, and I take every chance that I have to talk to them about it.

if someone isn't interested I'd just walk away and think about it on my own.

Right on, anna-banana. I just now got ridiculed for being what I am.

No simple answer
Everybody wishes to be like everybody else, to mingle and be accepted.
Everybody also desires to be like no other (bether than them, of couse) to win competition and praise.
The result is everybody presents to some extent a front of conformity, with some effort in fields that promise to give an advantage - and, of course, one's own weaknesses and nonconformities carefuly hidden.
This is true for NT, for AS, for everybody.
Along the years I have come to acquire the social skills and the taste for friends. I have now, for the first time in many years, a small but very good managerie of NT friends and love them.
Bit I have to manage them, I mean, I have to manage my behavior around them, not to bother them too much with my eccentricities. Of course they know I'm odd, even some kinda weird, but they do accept me.
So I discuss football (soccer) with them (it has 0 interest for me), and participate in all other themes. Some matters interest me simply because they interest them and they are my friends. Sometimes I talk also about what interests me, but only to the point that they lose interest. Them I go along what direction the talking takes.
I miss interesting and intelligent conversations, of course. But I take care of that need in sparse visits with three lifelong friends (though I met one of them quite recently) that manage to hear me in condition that I hear them.
Not a perfect life, but I think I can manage.
I wouldn't like to be a NT, it would be boring (reduced 3d brain immagery, reduced inner mental life, reduced attention span, reduced culture, but... ahem, more sex?).
A NT probably wouldn't want to be me, he'd find it too weird.
Besides, if I were a NT, I wouldn't be be.
For good or bad, I'm used to be me.
Find me no anti-AS pill, I won't use it!