what is love?

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it seems that differant people have differant ideas of what "love" is and that theres isnt a set defination, therefore it is just a human made consept that doesnt really exist. People tell me that they feel differantly towards differant people wheather it is their family, friends, or girl/boyfriend. I feel the same way towards my friends, family, and friends that are girls that i have sex with, the only differance being i will only have sex with the later of those options and of course not my family and male friends, but i dont feel any differantly emotionally towards any of them. Personally I feel a general caring for people and care about what happens to them, which is what i would concider to be love, but i dont really miss people when i dont see them for a long period of time, and i feel that needing people is a weekness because it means you cant do things on your own. When I tell people this they say that I have never felt love, but if thats not love then everyone is just fooling themselves and is using it as an excuse for their weekness. Its possible that there are just some emotions i am incapible of feeling, but i think its more likely that people are brainwashed by our society into thinking that they feel things that dont even exist.

it's entirely subjective. There are as many definitions as people...

baby don't hurt me.... don't hurt me... no more....

dun dun dun da-da...

i feel love MOST fully and intensely when the object (person) of my love is NOT physically present. when they are present and in close proximity - i get overwhelmed. i have wondered if this is an AS thing or not. I do not mean that i succumb to fanasy about the object of my love. what i mean is that i can process or feel more subtle emotions most clearly and fully in isolation. when others are around, i have meltdowns and get overwhelmed by the intensity of exchanges, communications and feelings all happening at once. and so, i cannot feel love -- just mosly confusion and overhwelm and pressure.

they depart and i can really connect with how much i care for them and how deeply important they are to me.

anyone else experience this?

Ahh you beat me to it!

Oh, I don't know why you're not there
I give you my love, but you don't care
So what is right and what is wrong
Gimme a sign

aaaaaaand we ruined the thread.


sry

no problemo. it's xmas here in OZ. good to see people having fun.

I think our answer was completely appropriate!

i do too,

Love is probably not an emotion and also since not everyone knows how to explain it such as you. I don't think that most neurotypicals really understand it either.

I think that love is relating to other peoples thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. And that can also generate this emotion when we are all relating to each other and you could associate this feeling with love or it may be if you know. Orgasm is not love.

Love isn't simply just a feeling if you ask me. Love isn't something that you can use against others or that it has to apply to situations in life that is unfavarable to your survival: Unless you are doing it to save anothers life because you see their life important.

I don't know, but there is an old proverb: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."

great great album, from 1968 - sort of the Canadian Pink Floyd

some googling "what is love canada rock music" no luck
some more fragmented memory; wth was the band again, a c, co co co aha recollection:

quote:
Though The Collectors, as Henderson acknowledges, "was not a hit record, it was quite strong in a regional kind of way. When KSAN [one of the first underground rock-oriented FM radio stations] started in San Francisco, they played it like a single; they played it every day."
Yet "What Love (Suite)," "which would bring the house down [at the] Fillmore West, was despised at [New York's] Fillmore East by some...by enough. By the Village Voice, for one, who said the best thing we could do for rock was disband. It was nice reading that review the next day," Bill laughs. But, he adds, "It was quite influential in Europe," where it got a strong reaction in England, Germany, and Holland in particular.

now, please someone do the miracle & find us an online playing of that one

Glad you're being a good sport about it; I was a little worried that we might've upset you. It makes me happy to see another WPer in good spirits; a lot of people, including myself at times, tend to take things too seriously around here.

Millie,

I experience exactly what you describe. For me, there is a complete disconnection between any relationship or situation that triggers emotional response and when I actually experience the response (or, separately still, when I am aware of what emotions I am feeling). This displacement can last from minutes to days or longer, with no apparent pattern. Of all the "autistic experiences", this is perhaps the one I find most impairing - it is exceptionally difficult to build any kind of meaningful relationship when you don't process even the most primal feelings in "real time".