Why don't people believe honest people?

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My friends and family will tell me I'm too honest because I won't lie when it's normal to lie (i.e. resume), and I volunteer too much information (i.e. interviews). Anyone that knows me for years will say that about me. Some people even think I'm incapable of telling a lie, but I have (usually for fun though...like trying to get someone to believe something crazy like I was in the Vietnam War or that I'm an alien from outerspace on a mission to observe human behavior or that someone my age of a different race is my daughter). What I don't understand is that people who know I don't exaggerate stories will often not believe me still? It's also like those same people who will boast to everyone else about how smart I am are the ones who treat everything I say as a stupid response.

What's even funnier? Those people will tell me something someone else who has a track record of lying habitually said, and then I say, she's lying because she always does, and they think I'm crazy only to find out I'm right. And I'm the one that is supposed to lack social intelligence, but sometimes I think I lack social stupidity which seems to equally be the norm.

ANYWAY, I guess I am socially stupid because I don't seem to understand. It's very important to me that I figure this out soon in a way where I can forgive people for being so selfish, arrogant, and stupid at a time when I really needed them.

Liars can't understand why honest people are honest, just like honest people can't understand why liars lie. It's the way of the world, and the reason we have WP. If you resign yourself to this simple fact and stop trying to understand them, you'll get along much better with the people that lie. Sadly, most people fall into the 'liar' category, since as far as I can tell dishonesty is the key to social interaction.

You are both so damned right. Everything is basicly a lie, that's what the society is buildt upon. In order to get somewhere, you got to lie,lie.lie. That's the rule. That's what keep normal ppl from going insane, denial and lies, to themselves and others. Cause they are basicly afraid of the thruth. An honest person becomes a danger to their fragile nest of lies in wich they lives in, so he/she automaticly becomes a part of their lying-denial scheme.
Think that should about cover my opinion.

Yeah, lying is the fabric of socialization, isn't it? I have had people ask me how I can stay so honest. My mum always defended me when I was young, she's told more then one person that "you have to have a good memory to lie". I think that's the best response.