Late at doing things

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I was thinking last night about how I was late to speak and walk, and then I remembered I was late at doing a lot of things. Usually people with AS are doing things early. I will explain what these things are below. I just don't know if I am more autistic than AS, because when I was younger I could not do many things on my own.

I was still not dressing myself by the time I was 5. I couldn't even read at 5.

I think I was 11 and still didn't know how to have a shower.

I was slow to learn things in school. I couldn't even write proper sentences at 13.

I couldn't cook until I was in my late teens.

My personal hygiene and doing things like brushing hair/ teeth or washing face was not properly done into my mid teens.

I didn't talk to people until I was 15. I did talk to my family though.

I remember at 12 I was at a camp and washed the dishes for the first time.

I was 20/21 when I first caught the train on my own.

I'm just thinking that I wasn't as high functioning as I thought I was. And I'm really really surprised that I've made so much progress.
Maybe I was just protected to much and because I was the youngest child and mum didn't want me to grow up. She still doesn't want me to leave home.

I drank out of a bottle till I was 7...not that I couldn't use a cup, i just preferred not to.
I tied my shoes late. I could dress myself, but not very well, and still had problems with this up until my teens..likewise with hygiene..it did not come naturally to me at all. I didn't start wearing a bra till long after I was supposed to, because I was oblivious to the fact that I needed one.
I was a very messy eater and had trouble using silverware till i was a bit older.
I think I was a late walker, and I am not sure about talking.
I wet my bed till I was at least 8.

I still don't drive.

I'm still not great with hygiene. I could read before I could walk LOL. I just recently learned how to cook, but that's not AS. Bottom line is, having AS means fast start at some thing, late start at other things. Or at least that's what it means for me. I could read and tell time before I was 3, and yet I had so many problems with so many different things. In 2nd grade I installed stuff on the teachers computer, and yet I couldn't sit still in class. I had such a head start when it came to math and reading, and yet when I went to a restaurant I didn't understand why I had to put my napkin in my lap and why my knife had to be on the right and the fork had to be on the left. Actually I still don't understand that LOL. Well kind of.

Reading and walking were all on time, average.

But..

I couldn't take showers by myself until around 11-12.
I still need assistance half the time tying my shoes, half the time with zippers and buttons.
I still can't tie knots.
I required assistance for dressing myself until 3rd-4th grade.
I still depend on my mother to talk to others for me (things like going to the store to talk to someone about returning items).
My mother still cleans my room and after me. Otherwise, it doesn't get done. I never recognize the fact that I've made a mess or need to clean something up.
I still can't style my hair, it took me until the end of middle school to start brushing my hair on my own to where it actually looked like I brushed it.
I didn't sleep in my own room until I was 12, maybe?



BTW, I'm 15. I think it might have something to do with the fact my mother has always just helped me and never really tried to teach me things on my own. I've never realized I've depended on my mother so much until now.

Yeah i didnt start caring about having friends or girls till i was 14, i think.

I could somehow walk by 11 months and learnt to ride a bike early enough. Other then that,i learnt to walk, read and do maths a little late. Could never do up a tie, still can't as of today. Can't actually cook anything still and im 19. I can recall learning at a late age that i had to look both ways before crossing the street. Shoe laces took alot of time too. As of today i still feel like i never really learnt how to wash my hair properly. And whenever i try gell my hair its always a disaster. I've always been a bit careless and clumsy with things, so thats always meant i've broken alot of things. The problem with that was i've always been very poor at fixing things physically, so i would get very upset over that and dependent on my dad. I'm an avid cyclist today and i still can't even repair my bike or take it apart properly. Its just too unbelievably complex for me, so i always seek my dad for help there. Never been good with doing a bed, although my strict mum forced me to learn it by age 8 as she was happy to spend hours and days teaching me. Driving was very tough for me, i had more lessons then everyone else, but was fortunate to get my license first go.