do i have asperger's or not ?

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This is my first post. i didn't know that what i had might be asperger's till now. i've wanted to spill out to someone who'd understand how i am because i've told my mom that i'm kind of insensitive to other people's pain and she doesn't quite understand.

well this is how i am: i understand other people's hurt when it is emotional but i dont get it when it comes to physical pain.
for example:
physical- when an uncle of mine had an accident and was in the ICU, i was completely indifferent. my parents were so worried about him. they kept talking about it all the time. but i did not care about it at all(even when they told me that he died). being this way did'nt really disturb me till i realized that i was indifferent to my mother's frequent stomach pains too. it made me feel awful . i get tears wen i think deeply about it.
emotional-when some of my friends criticize other people when they are not around, i always wish that they'd stop because i understand how they'd feel if they heard it.
also, my brother is in a different country now, studying. i do not miss him even in the slightest. my mum misses him a lot. not me. is this normal?

i read in other websites that people with AS are also clumsy, lack nonverbal communication, have difficulty in social interaction, rigid movements, and restricted and repetitive interests and behavior. i am nothing like that.
all there is to me is that i do not cry or worry even if a close friend or family suffers pain, or miss them when they are away.


now, can someone tell me if i have asperger's or not ?

no.

oh good.

do you have any idea why i'm the way i am?

You're human.

Just a guess.

hey i think that i'm a wierd person. i cant empathize at all. its actually annoying when i think about it.

Aspie quota is limited Not everybody can be Aspie, really.

dont know if you have asperger's but seem to be pretty strong

You don't seem to fit AS. Maybe you just don't care or miss them because you are not that close to them. Or, maybe it is just hard for you to relate to something that is not happening to you. Most people that I know that are NT don't fully understand how someone feels unless they have experienced it themselves.

Your apparent apathy and/or repression of emotions are insufficient criteria for a diagnosis. (Nor should you turn to the internet for a potentially misleading conclusion.)

It sounds to me like the emotions you've mentioned are just your natural response to those situations. A tragic event for one person could cause them to be very upset and broken down but for another person may cause them to be very quiet and emotionless. Everyone copes with things differently. But, good that you're concerned to investigate like this.

You don't fit enough criteria to have Asperger's. Have you always felt indifferent to people's physical pain? Or did something happen to make you that way?
All I can think of is Alexithymia; not being able to tell or express emotions. Basically, psychiatrists give people that label when they can't say how they're feeling. You could have something like that mildy.
Are you sure you don't care or you don't know how you feel? I don't tend to feel anything when people are hurt, but I don't like it when friends talk about other friends behind their back and get a bit overemotional when someone dies on the news. Actually that's only happened since my dad died. I probably wouldn't have been concerned before that.

couldn't say. dont have training that would let me diaognosis it

yes, i've always felt indifferent to people's physical pain(as long as i can remember). i dont remember any incident that could've made me not feel empathy.
i'm sure i dont care. i dont actually feel anything. i'm always like "what do i care?"

I think you said it best ... these are some of the hallmark characteristics.