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How do you tend to solve a conflict?
Anything to keep the peace 33%  33%  [ 5 ]
It's my way or the highway 7%  7%  [ 1 ]
I'm a successful negotiator 13%  13%  [ 2 ]
Other _______________________________________ 47%  47%  [ 7 ]
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09 Jan 2009, 10:15 am

Do you tend towards a certain way of trying to solve a conflict? How successful are you at solving a conflict with another person? Hoping for any comments on the topic of conflict resolution here...


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09 Jan 2009, 10:19 am

I have found listening to what the other person is really saying most important and can prevent many conflicts from progressing or happening in the first place.



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09 Jan 2009, 1:00 pm

Can those who voted "other" comment on their choice?


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09 Jan 2009, 1:10 pm

"Other"

I provide them with enough rope for them to hang themselves ... metaphorically speaking, of course! :wink:



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09 Jan 2009, 1:10 pm

I hate conflict and will usually avoid it. Am not the type of person to pick a fight or stir up trouble. Am more than happy to take the path of least resistance in most social situations. But if it's a conflict in which I am not involved, am very hesitant to get involved. Loud arguments, they frighten me. You could say I'm a peace-maker as opposed to a sh*t disturber or instigator.



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09 Jan 2009, 1:13 pm

slowmutant wrote:
I hate conflict and will usually avoid it. Am not the type of person to pick a fight or stir up trouble. Am more than happy to take the path of least resistance in most social situations. But if it's a conflict in which I am not involved, am very hesitant to get involved. Loud arguments, they frighten me. You could say I'm a peace-maker as opposed to a sh*t disturber or instigator.


The downside of that is I really have trouble being assertive. I am a push-over. :(



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09 Jan 2009, 1:14 pm

Greentea wrote:
Can those who voted "other" comment on their choice?


In my case, not really. I was hoping to see something that put into words my viewpoint. But those choices don't fit. "Anything to keep the peace" and "It's my way or the highway" are both too extreme for me. And I don't see myself as a sucessful negotiator. Thus, "Other".



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09 Jan 2009, 1:14 pm

BellaDonna wrote:
I have found listening to what the other person is really saying most important and can prevent many conflicts from progressing or happening in the first place.


Listening is great, but I seem to run into trouble UNDERSTANDING and being UNDERSTOOD even when both parties are listening. :?

I'm not sure which to choose because it's very situational and all depends on who I'm arguing with and how upset I am.



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09 Jan 2009, 1:18 pm

I mean conflict as in when your needs/desires/interests are at odds with someone else's. Eg: you want to go to the beach. your spouse wants to go to the park. Or you need quiet and the other needs to listen to the radio while working.


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09 Jan 2009, 2:01 pm

I know what works, avoiding conflict altogether! although that would never happen unless I lived in a cave.
So I just walk away from it and not let it go any further then let is slow down then go back to the person/people hoping we're friends again


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