I am female. 30 now. In my 20's, I never had a problem with intimacy or love except that I think I was getting too much of it. You are talking to the master playa here. I played the playas. Anyway, it was only because I was kinda pretty. Had nothing to do with my social skills. Also, men who sleep around a lot tend to fall in love with a woman who won't sleep with them, so that's how i played the playa's.
Now, I'm married. A couple months before I got married, I was raped, and was awake for every moment of it (he didn't slip me any drug type thing). I have lost all interest in sex since the rape. It is only a marital duty, and I look at it like doing the dishes except I am less apt to procrastinate the dishes (you don't have to act like you are enjoying doing the dishes). I don't like to cuddle like I used to either. I still like to be petted like a cat, and I still love my back rubs, but that's too much work for my husband I guess. Either way, I was active duty military when the rape occurred, and I'm only above 30% disabled with the VA Center because of the PTSD diagnosis regarding the rape, so it at least pays the rent and I can get veteran benefits I wouldn't otherwise qualify to get.
I don't care if anyone has an issue with me milking the gov't like that. The only way they learn something is to hit them where it hurts the most, their wallet. And I'm sorry, but the dude that raped me was active duty military who was obvious that something was wrong with him psychologically, and there were many complaints against him on sexual harassment as well as other rapes, and the military kept handing him rank instead of stamping him psycho and sending him home. Thanks to my testimony, he is now stamped as a criminal instead, and now it's public about his crimes, and he has a little girl. I don't know his relationship with his baby's mamma, but I'm sure she was getting child support until my testimony reduced his rank. Anyway, the military is only starting to care about the women in it. I'm sure all the women collecting VA disability for a rape might have something to do with the new rape intervention centers they finally started to put on bases. For the military to be so obsessed with expecting from individuals the best of the best, exceeding expectations, being all they can be...you'd think they, as a whole, would be that way. Anyway, sorry, touchy subject. Yea, I'm more mad at the military for the rape (as well as myself) than I am at the rapist. I actually feel sorry for the guy. He really was a nice guy except that he couldn't take no for an answer, and it was like it just didn't register in his head that I didn't want to have sex.
Either way, I wanted to say I doubt Aspergers has nothing to do with my intimate life. Maybe I'm just a little different than the norm (aspergers norm, hah, an oxymoron) on that one.