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How can one appear more adult like in their behavior? Any tips? especially on things like what to do if I walk past someone I know but don't necessarily talk to? do I say hi or pretend I don't see them? what if I have to walk past this person numerous times per day...do I need to say hi or how are you each time?

Things I have learned:
-I should get up and get some tissue and blow my nose instead of just sniffling all the time.
-I should have stopped wearing pigtails a long time ago unless I'm at home or running to the store.


Anymore tips, I'm about to start my career...and I'm starting to feel the vast difference between me and the other women I work with. I'd at least like to look the part or act the part. I don't want to appear immature even if I am in some ways

What's wrong with pigtails?

To be honest, I wonder what's wrong with pigtails too. I love pigtails but I have realized that people look at me funny or even question me about this particular hairstyle...because it's apparently considered appropriate only for children.

I thought pigtails were fashionable now for adult women.

And yeah, please blow your nose instead of sniffing!! !!

If you keep passing the same person or people during the day, you can either say "Hi" or "Hi, again" with a smile. Or just nod and smile. Or look at something else as you pass them - like your watch or something you're carrying - as long as you don't do this every time you pass them.

If you don't want to talk to them, try to just look strait ahead, or look at a document in your hand, or look at at the display on your phone. If yourreading texton your phone, you won't even notice her and you don't have to lie that you didn't see her when you actually didn't see her.

My advice to you is to copy and mimic NT's the best you can. Sure, the NT world makes little sense but unfortunately you have to play by their rules to get ahead.

Pigtails CAN look nice. And I would rather sniff all day than blow my nose.

I do that as well, especially if I'm waiting in line. Standing in one place makes me nervous.

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And I would rather sniff all day than blow my nose.[/quote]

Please let me never be trapped in an enclosed space with you when you have a cold!

The sound of sniffing drives me round the twist.....aaaaaaaaaaaargh!

I'll have to remember that one.

It seems very odd to me that that would be the normal preference.
Everyone sees you make a mess and either carry it away or stuff it in your pocket.
Why would you prefer to shake someone's hand after they blow instead of sniff?
What if they were contagious with flu or tuberculosis?

Taking antihistamines might prevent that situation so everyone is happy.

I find that a half smile and a nod work wonders.

I do that, too. Or sometimes I might say something like, "We meet again!" or "I'm not really stalking you" or "We have to quit meeting like this" and I am sure to laugh a little when I say it.

I do notice that other people also don't really know what to do/say, and their eyes are very 'furtive', or they pretend to be busy in thought or with looking for someone/something as we're passing so that our eyes don't meet. If the eyes meet, one must acknowledge the other person.

You got some good ideas, especially that last paragraph.

Let me reiterate: if the eyes meet, one must acknowledge the other person! That's right, right?

Also, when you pass someone down a hall, you can usually hear their footsteps, right? So when is it OK to ignore them while passing by them.

Thanks everyone for the advice. I'll be putting some of it to use on Monday : )

yeah i'm 46 - what is wrong with pigtails!

Whenever I meet someone in passing whom I'm familiar with but not wishing to talk to, I will offer a polite, "Hello, How are you?". The key though is maintaining your speed and not looking like you want to stop and chat. I walk on by with a friendly smile making eye contact as I pass and speak. They will usually just offer a short reply, "fine" or some times "Fine, how are you?". If they ask how I'm doing, I reply as I pass or even over my shoulder, "Doin' Fine." Don't forget that its all pleasantries, its not so much how you actually feel, so much as going through the ritual. Stay positive, if your having a bad day and say so, it will draw their concern and they WILL want to talk to you. Also, I have a bunch of different polite greetings that I practice in my head so that I'm not always using the same exact words for my greeting and reply.