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I rarely talk to people in real life or online

Your not alone.

Do you choose not to talk to people or do you want to talk to people but its hard?

I'm always known as 'the quiet one'. Unfortunately, I have to talk to people when I'm at work, but the rest of the time, I am silent. Sometimes because I want to be alone, sometimes because I'm not interested in the other people, sometimes because I don't know what to say or how to act appropriately. What's your reason?

I had selective mutism for a while but over time I became more at ease speaking and being in social situations. But of course there are moments where I am like that too.. but then again so are most people, autistic or not....

I just never have much to say IRL...I keep feeling my conversation should either be witty, informative, or enlightening...

This is exactly the same as me.

I don't talk that much. I spend a lot of time reading.

I basically keep my thoughts and my ponderings to myself because I am quite a bungler at explaining them to others.

i choose not to talk to people sometimes i will talk but only when spoken to.

i don't talk much either.

I do this at school but if I am talking to someone I know well I am not bad at having a conversation at all, although there are some social things NTs do where I think "I will never be able to do that", like small talk that people in the office do, they say things that I don't expect and I would never be able to mimic it.

Last edited by DeLoreanDude on 24 Jan 2009, 10:05 am, edited 1 time in total.

I'm the exact opposite. Will talk to anybody, even if I'm not supposed to. Sometimes has it's advantages, but also it's annoying.

Same here.

I force myself to talk, but I usually feel like I am acting, then when person that I was faking a conversation with goes away, I am glad that it is over.

At work I hardly ever start a conversation, it just doesn't happen. If they start one, I can hold conversations with them and I think I manage to bluff my way through fairly well. After all these years of practice, people think I'm just shy and very reserved. It usually feels awkward and fake and halting in my head and I am kind of fascinated how organic and natural other peoples' chats and conversations seem. I do hesitate to join in, I don't know how or when it's appropriate to do that. It is only on very rare occasions that I feel that a real, genuine interaction has happened and flowed naturally with someone who I don't know really, really well. So I do tend to keep quiet, mainly to save myself the stress and irritation.

I talk very easily with my family and with my friend, but even with them, if I'm tired I can barely string a sentence together. I have been known to grunt or mutter monosyllabically when my mum's telling me about people and things on our weekly phone call. If it's been a busy, noisy, annoying day at work, sometimes just don't have the energy left to put into it. Sorry mum.

I talk to myself a fair bit, though.