Poof! All of a sudden I have social skills.

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I was slowly learning social skills and stuff forever but not getting much better. All of a sudden, my social anxiety is gone, I have empathy I didn't have before (which came so fast it came as a shock) and I'm not even very awkward anymore. I've been surprising myself with how easy it is now. I've even noticed my friends seem to notice something different. This is a f*****g miracle!
So my question is can social skills naturally develop at 15/16, just a little bit behind?

Oh no, a preacher slapped your forehead and told you that you were healed, didn't he!!

Some people claim you can "grow out of it". Other than that I have no other answers for you.

Might be a phase... ?
Or perhaps your ineptitude was a phase and you grew out of it.

Some people grow out of the anxious phase and move into the "I don't care" phase, or what I term as "the bulldoze" phase.

for some reason I started off at "bulldoze" and gone onto anxious

That sounds a bit like a normal stage that people go through during early adolescence where they suddenly become aware of the problems in the world.

I am in no way qualified to say you aren't cured, but are completely sure that all your problems from AS are gone? Do you feel different mentally and physically than you did before this sudden change?

In any case, congratulations on your sudden success with social skills.

Could be temporary. Some days I'm more social than others.

I call this phenomenon DYNAMISM.

http://wordnetweb.princeton.edu/perl/webwn?s=dynamism

I live for the process of developing my own "DYNAMISM".
(...against the challenging resistance of my condition.)

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Is this just with your friends and family, or is it anywhere with complete strangers around, if it is the first then you might have just become comfortable with their presence and are able to socailize with them easily, compared to people you don' t know so well.

Right on. That's the most logical explanation if he really did just "get it" one night.

This happened to me at 14. I just started to hang out with people more. People that I had known for years and never wanted to hang out with. Throughout the years I started to make more friends, left the old ones behind, but kind of kept in contact with them. I used to hate talking to strangers but I've gotten better at it.
I still feel I can't relate to people though, but I'm not as anxious as I once was.

When I was 15 I started developing social skills.. not sure what changed either but I finally started to break out of my shell then.

My social skills dramatically improved when I reached ~30.

I agree that one can develop empathy, which is the vital element for human-to-human communication in all its forms.

I once read that people with AS develop social skills slowly throughout their lives, unlike non-aspies who develop the majority during childhood (whether this is true or not is another thing, though). To be honest, I really don't know the answer to your question. However, I can say that when I was about 15 a big change happened to me regarding social skills as well. Unfortunately my anxiety has gotten a lot worse since then so now I'm more like Miss-anxious rather than Miss-awkward.

It's not like that. It's like I finally have NT level social skills. I'm still an aspie thoughXD