But I'm not ready to be an aunt!! !! !! !! !! !!

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So my stupid jerk younger brother went and knocked some girl up, also did I mention that he married her? Not out of love or even affection or anything as silly as that, nooooooooo it was for military benefits. And also she is (was?) seriusly addicted to coke (as in cocaine) when I knew her. Is my niece/nephew going to be a crack-baby? An aspie/tourettes crack baby?? OMYGOD
Also, he didn't even tell me he was marrying her & it was LAST SATURDAY. My dad went. My mom doesnt know either. I'm scared to tell her, she will be so pissed at him, I hope she doesnt decide to kill the messanger.

I am so mad right now but so strangely calm, I am pretty sure I am going to freak out very soon about this. I just spent an hour on the phone to my BFF saying only "Omygod." and "WTF??!"

I see.

I was an uncle before I was born lol

It sounds like you're more ready to be an aunt than they are to be a mother & father.

AAAAAAAAAAAArg.
Unfortunately you are probably right about me being more ready to an aunt then they are to be parents.
And also genetics will out, that kid will definately have something & they niether of them will listen to me, my brothe wont even go to get his tourettes under control, god only knows what they will do to thier kid. :X
Children are not toys!

I became an uncle at the age of thirteen or so, and I continue being an uncle now as I have then: by not associating myself with my nieces and nephews.

Works great!

*Shrug*

My nephew and niece adore me (there's another one coming too), and I them; they're my friends (I've known them since birth, so I can interact with them, and they'll always see me how I am, rather than seeing me as that odd person everyone else does).

He or she might just be your friend if you aren't that good with people outside of the family like me.

O, and they don't judge you either when they're young.

I went to school in my teens with a girl who was the aunt to another girl. They were both in the same class. And the aunt was just a half a year older than the niece.

That's my definition of young now.

I was never ready the eight times my neices and nephews were born. But espicaly the first time my neice was born when I was eight and my brother's deadbeat girlfriend would abondon her and her little brother on us all the time so she could go out and party until the cows come home. My mom who is a canidate for saithood would take them in while I would call social services and tell them what happened and have them take the kids. Yeah I tottaly know what you mean. It was bad enough when the brother I was closest too got married (to a chick who is really like a sister or best friend than an in law but still) and then they went and adopted two kids and then had a thrid and a forth is on the way. They always need breakes or help so my mom is always having to come from halfway across the country to babysit on Christmas of all times. Plus their oldest one is the defination of brat.

I don't see what the fuss is. Just kick them out of your life.

Try being a grandpa (or in your case, grandma...wait, that's the name of the Cuban newspaper...

Unfortunately you're not in control of the situation, but hey, it's not your fault. It's also not your responsibility. The child will be the one innocent victim in this. You're able to form whatever relationship to the child (or not) that you wish.

However, if they're that far away, it doesn't look like it will be that much trouble. No one's going to put a sign around your neck that says 'auntie'. I wasn't an uncle until I was in my 20s, so I may not relate, but it's only family.

Just make sure you don't get saddled with diapers, sitting, and cleaning up the mess....

It's going to be ok. Eventually.

I was 'auntie shanti' at 10 and then auntie to two other beautiful children. I didn't do much for the first one, just had the title. The other two I'm more involved with.

I'm an aunt to three nieces and three nephews. The hardest parts of being an aunt are trying to play with them and trying to ignore them when they cry.