Sounds like you had spells of it. Chili...mmmm...I'm jealous.
Believe me, after playing in bands for years, people are hard to figure out. I've played for hours, at people who reminded me of hibernating reptiles, who came up while we were tearing down, saying 'how much they enjoyed us'...coulda fooled me..
As long as you know how to play 'Free Bird' (at least in the South), you can get anyone on your side...
I imagine all those people were a good part of the cause. As they used to say many years ago, let the people become the ocean you swim in (in other words, just let them go past you, and don't worry about them)
If you have a good time interacting with people (I do...but on a very selective basis...usually I glom onto one person and ignore the rest of the party..., that's considered fun. It's easier to make your own fun, I suppose.