At what age do you think your social skills are stuck?

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When I see the 6 and 7yo's I work with, I experience that they're far more socially mature than I am in their social skills and their social thinking (not in their reasoning in which I have a lot more experience).

Even the special ed children, though roughly 1 to 3 years behind in different areas of their development and obviously less developed and skilled socially than their peers are still better at social things, have a lot more empathy than I.

So my social skills and empathy are probably somewhere stuck at the level of a toddler or a baby despite that I am hf. How reassuring that a part of me will remain younger than a 3-year-old until the day I die (this is sarcasm).

At what age do you think your social skills are stuck?

Some things to think about when trying to answer that:

Was there a point in your childhood when your contact with peers suddenly worsened because you couldn't keep up socially? Maybe at that point your peers moved on socially beyond your abilities.
Or did you start out totally isolated from your peers even as a toddler?

If you have or had the chance to experience the social interaction between non-autistic children, how do you feel you compare to their social ability/social reciprocation?

Um, no, people with "full blown" autism, including those who also have cognitive delay, also learn as they get older. They do tend to learn more slowly than Aspies, but that's the only difference.

I approximate my raw social skills at something like a six year old's level; but I have some skills a six year old wouldn't have, mostly linguistic skills rather than social skills per se, such as the use of logic or analogy to communicate something. So my social functioning in general is something unique, not at the level of any age of NT, but something completely different.

I started out with worse interaction skills than my peers, and was isolated from about age 3. When observing children younger than 10, they still have better interaction skills and social reciprocation than I do. I'm going to be around some later today, so will be able to better judge the skill gap and maybe repost in this thread what I observe.

It's really hard to say. Feels like the level of a hostile uncooperative teenager.....somewhere between 13 and 16.

My therapist is an AS specialist and he does not agree with the statement made by an AS expert that we are 1/3-2/3 our chronological age emotionally. It may have been Attwood that said that.

I'm 40, and sometimes I still feel like a teenager, but typically it's like a young adult, like early twenties. My entire lifestyle is like someone that age.

It depends on the person and the conversation. Some people I naturally have a very easy time talking to, while other people I can't think of a single intelligent thing to say around them. I think that's why some people find me very fun to talk to, and others find me dull as a rock.
Also, it depends on what they're talking about. I'd say my social skills are about average if someone's talking about my interests, but if someone's talking about their jobs or something like that I tend to get quiet and not contribute much to the conversation.

Social skills change and can regress. There were some ages when I had it together (in certain ways) more than now. Of course, I don't think that is a function so much of social skills but rather of coping with the anxiety.

Until I was 25, I felt like a teenager, emotionally. Here's to hoping I've made it to my early 20s.

My 3 year old nephew is better at reading other people's emotions and expressing his own emotions than I am.

The point at which my peers started socially developing beyond me was around age 13.

Around 25 is when the brain stops developing, so I would say 25.

i think i am about 16, but using my logic i can fake a 60 year old:)

so my overall mental age is probably somewhere near my real age...

if i dissect if i would say my relationship skills are the low while my interpretation skills are somewhat higher...if that makes any sense?

I would say I am somewhere between 5 and 10 for social skills...