Caring about people

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One comment someone made about autistic people got me wondering... Do you care about people less than NTs do, and I don't mean immediate family, I mean people in general. I find that I do care a great deal, when they have something they can offer me, even if it is just listening to my rambling... I especially love when others ramble about their life experiences, especially older people. I like it when the world can be shared between people in an intellectual and spiritual way, and for that reason I can say, yes I care about others, not less than an NT, but differently

i don't think i care much comparatively(lol i always seem to be the first to repy to your threads)
edit: for me i just try to lead the simplist life as possible and if caring would stop me i probably wouldn't (if that makes sense

I can't say, because that's comparing my insides, to other people's outsides, and that's not comparison of likes.

But I like that idea of caring differently, not less.

I think I do care a lot more about people than others. But I also hold grudges more than others, like, I still hate someone even though it's 2 years after what she did(it really wasn't that bad).
I'm not sure though, sometimes I can be very inconsiderate about how I make other people feel. Like once after a PE lesson(of which my personal space was constantly invaded, which _seriously_ makes me go crazy) and someone came up to me and said, 'Hi, Emma'(my real name), and I just said in a really aggravated voice, 'Shut up' while closing my eyes, despite the fact they hadn't done anything to me.
I also can hate someone and know I'm being inconsiderate, but not care...(justified, imo).
IDK, am I just stating the obvious here, xD?
I do think I can sympathize, I just find it hard to show that I understand, even if it means saying, 'I understand', because I hate being laughed at, and being open isn't my thing. I usually say something stupid or be stupid or come across as stupid or patronizing when I try to sympathize or comfort someone(I guess people think they've been reduced to being comforted by someone as socially inept as me), so I tend to not, even though I really want to. I guess that's what I'm trying to say.
EMZ=]

Honestly, we'll never know for sure. As for me, if I do care about other people less, it's because of my experiences and personality.

As for symptomatically of ASD's, I think the major difference is basically that an autistic person might be oblivious of the unconscious but technically peripheral rituals surrounding caring that most people expect and reciprocate without thinking about it. Being less receptive to this, we might not seem to as readily care about others automatically, kind of analogous to losing a signal, but we can definitely be thoughtful and considered. Once we get to that point, I at least care about other people.

I would say that I care more, because the average neurotypical generally cares more for 'his place' in the 'pack/herd' than he does for the actual humanity of others. I am concerned with the actual humanity of others

Magliabechi.

I used to care quite a lot, but a good amount of it has been wrung out of me at this point.

I used to not care at all.. then I got more caring.. these days I don't actually care about people.. but I still pretty much try my hardest to not get in anyones way or make anyone dislike me. I do think that my doing so has more to do with my perception of myself than my caring for others, though.

So I guess the simple answer is: No, not really. I think I care less about people/humanity than the average NT.

In general, yes, I care about people a lot less than most "normal" people seem to. Unless I know that someone is worth caring about, I'm incapable of anything but indifference toward them. (If I find that someone is worth caring about, I'll care about them a lot, and as long as they stay the same person, I'll never stop caring about them.) The other side of this is that it's impossible for me to hate someone without them first proving to be worthy of my hatred, so I don't do racism, ageism, sexism, any other -ism.

I think I care less than most of my friends do. However that could just be because I have very nice and caring friends? In general my friends are very different to me - they all wear their hearts on their sleeves. This is a good thing because it makes it much easier to read their emotional state!

Sometimes I can go overboard and care too much about one particular person, which scares them away. I'm aware of it now so I try to keep it under control.

I probably care less than most, unless I have some kind of existing relationship with someone or a desire to know someone better. Even then, it's sometimes difficult to know if I genuinely care or if I think I'm expected to care and provide some kind of acknowledgment that I do.

I can care as far as apathy begins and smiles end.

Why should I care about people just because they are mating, breeding, breaking up, or ran a red light when I dont know them and their names get shoved in my face just because they are on some movie?

I'm not sure... and I never really have been. I think I base my " care " off my confusion/frustration with peoples stupidity/ignorance and a relation to my own emptiness/fear that I grew up with. Like during 9/11 I felt nothing, I tried to... but in the end the red neck yelling about how this is Amurica and how how he hates " rag heads " and thinks they should all die will always seem worse or make me feel more empty/confused/frustrated.

As far as I am concerned... I care about the good people. I couldn't care less about the rest.