Well, I have seen both sides of this issue. When my father was still living, he always cautioned me to "be careful" when we ended a telephone conversation, even after I was middle aged. It invariably irritated me no end. As if I hadn't the sense to be careful unless he told me to.
I found myself doing this to my own daughter who is in her mid-twenties. (Not to make excuses for parents who are downright insulting and invalidating,) I found it hard to stop being so closely involved in the life of an individual that I was directly responsible for, for so many years. My father probably felt the same way.
I learned to see my father's statement as a way of him expressing his continuing love and support of me, instead of as an insult. As for my own daughter, I have backed off and try only to advise her if she asks for me to. Sometimes, it takes having your own child to see how hard it can be not to come across insulting, when it wasn't meant.
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