what did i do wrong?

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I dont know what i did wrong..
I'm hanging out with a group of people, one guy's name is eddie. Where some how talking about somethings, asking this person some questions...they say just call him eddie...i call him by his name of Ed, just like everyone else.. people are joking around by calling him eddie. (i think the only people who call him Eddie are his parents, and someother people..)
The same day I got a hair cut at a barber shop called Eddies barber. After the are saying to me just call him Ediie..(which i'm not going to do) I said," i did get a hair cut at eddies barber shop"..

Everyone turned there backs, and scratched their hair, as if it was the stupidest thing ever said...

The meaning, It was an excuse not to call him eddie...

It was a tangent statement that they could not perceive as relevant to the flow of conversation. It was not wrong, in the sense of evil, but it was wrong in the sense of timing and relevance. Even neurotypicals make that type of mistake, but not near as often as we aspies do.

Yeah..sounds like what she said...

You didn't want to call him Eddie because of the Barber Shop? All I can suggest is to do what they say and call him "Eddie" instead of Ed because if you keep calling him Ed after they asked you to call him "Eddie" they are going to think you are calling him Ed just to annoy them and they might hold that against you.

The one I remember most (because it was the most embarrassing to me) was when I was in high school. I was sitting on the senior lawn, with a group of girls I was friendly with but who weren't really my friends, eating lunch.

Lyn Bawbell looked at one of the girls in our group and said: "Carol, you eat like a bird!" (meaning: she didn't eat very much).

I'd just read something I thought was interesting and (to me) was both funny and right on topic, so I said: "But Lyn, birds eat eight times their own body weight every day!"

Everyone looked at me like I was totally stupid. Or an embarrassment for them to be sitting with.

I thought about that for many years afterwards and I've never said anything quite that discordant again.

(And I have no idea if birds actually do eat eight times their own body weight every day, but that's what I had read in the Sunday paper.)

From the way you explain it, it sounds like you made the comment, "I did get a hair cut at Eddie's Barber Shop," as a way of simply adding to the conversation about the name "Eddie". As if to say, "As long as we're talking about the name Eddie, here's a little bit of trivia for you...." Is that correct?

It's the same kind of thing I would have said. I've noticed that there are some people in the world who enjoy comments like that, and can flow with it; perhaps taking the conversation into an amusing list of "Eddies". In my experience (and humble opinion), those are the smarter, more interesting people.

Then there are other people in the world who just can't handle comments like that because they don't see the connection. Or they think it's weird that you are taking the conversation in what they consider a strange direction. Those are the kinds of people that I am never able to really connect with, because whenever I make what, to me, is a clever observation, they just look at me blankly and say, "Okaaaaaaaaaay...."


Bottom line: You did nothing wrong. You were just talking to people who don't get it. That is, if I'm understanding you correctly.

I don't think you did anything wrong.

If I knew someone named Ed, who didn't like being called Eddie, and others were teasing him by calling him Eddie, and trying to get me to call him that, I can easily imagine myself saying, "No, I'm not going to call him that. I did get a haircut at Eddie's Barbershop today, though...." If you had just gotten your haircut at Eddie's Barbershop, it seems like a perfectly normal thing to add to the conversation. It's a mildly interesting coincidence: you get a haircut at Eddie's Barbershop, and then you're having a conversation about the name Eddie. It's not the sort of thing I would expect to make people roar with laughter but I can hardly imagine it being offensive either.

It hurts to see everyone have the same reaction... as if it was the stupidest thing ever

nah...i don't think that's what everyone is saying...

you did nothing wrong.

If I was in that situation I probably would have said "This reminds me of my favorite cartoon, Ed Edd n Eddy."
It would have been a natural progression of my thought process, just like you thought of the barber shop.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6edkEY5LBFg[/youtube]

Oooo, I love Ed, Edd, and Eddy. KayCe, that remark about the birds seems like it should have fit in perfectly. I never will figure out the rules.
Stros, I'm sorry that you think I think that what you said was stupid. I thought you were asking for an explanation, and, like an aspie, provided it without thinking deeper and realizing what you wanted was support. I'm sorry.