Name the #1 behavior your parents hate you doing!! !

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07 Mar 2009, 7:54 pm

I'm talking the one they down right HATE that gets under there skin you are yelled at for etc. Surely you could make a list and such but I was curious what your #1 behavior issue is with them. :-) (Trust me I wish my parents could accept me for who I am and in a perfect world are parents WOULD LOL!) But the world isn't perfect and we're on the Wrong Planet remember. :-) LOL! Anyway mine is laughing when a kid gets into trouble no matter the age I find it funny and I laugh. :-)



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07 Mar 2009, 7:56 pm

Obsessing. And talking about whatever my latest obsession is. Talking about my interests at all drives my mother nuts.



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07 Mar 2009, 8:05 pm

I am kind old but I think its a cute question.

When I was young, my parents hated the way I couldn't take directions - literally. I didn't know it was the AS until recently. I was treated as insolent - which just led to real insolent behavior. "If you're going to TREAT me like a criminal I might as well act like a criminal!"

Now I have kids with AS and I can tell you waht drives me crazy. My son is extremely awkward, socially. He's very cute and smart and athletic but he is so awkward and has a hard time making eye contact. I don't want this to hold him back.

My daughter is a different kind of aspie. She screams and sings and makes all kinds of annoying sounds. She's also very mean, when she wants to be.
Also - she's extremely talkative and will repeat a question over and over and over and over and over until I answer her. Sometimes, I'll just let her go to see how long she'll go. My husband thinks its cruel. She seems to know all the right aspie buttons to push in me.

I wasn't like her when I was a kid.

Actually neither one - which is why its annoying. But they both are very smart, talented, funny, beautiful, and have some amazing super powers.


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07 Mar 2009, 8:16 pm

making noises. usually they just tell me to stop but I have this new sound that they think sounds very bad and they're yelling at me for making it.



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07 Mar 2009, 8:18 pm

buryuntime wrote:
making noises. usually they just tell me to stop but I have this new sound that they think sounds very bad and they're yelling at me for making it.


You poor thing. I know I do that to my daughter. She can get really freaked out if I yell at her, so its a battle. Are your parents aspie?


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07 Mar 2009, 8:20 pm

MmeLePen wrote:
buryuntime wrote:
making noises. usually they just tell me to stop but I have this new sound that they think sounds very bad and they're yelling at me for making it.


You poor thing. I know I do that to my daughter. She can get really freaked out if I yell at her, so its a battle. Are your parents aspie?

Nope, at least not a diagnosis of it anyway.



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07 Mar 2009, 8:38 pm

forgetting things, showing hardly any emotion, not thinking enough about other people.

she also doesn't like me playing with the dog at night, when i get really hyperactive.

oh, and when i always correct people and will argue my point across she gets a bit irritated by that.



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07 Mar 2009, 8:52 pm

For me I think the one that makes my parents the most mad would have to be the fact that. I refuse to hold small children or even be around them. Older children aren't too bad if they are behaving. I think it is partly a sensory issue but beyond that I just don't like kids. And considering the fact that most every other member of my family loves children I'm definitely the odd man out.


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07 Mar 2009, 9:33 pm

stonemask wrote:
For me I think the one that makes my parents the most mad would have to be the fact that. I refuse to hold small children or even be around them. Older children aren't too bad if they are behaving. I think it is partly a sensory issue but beyond that I just don't like kids. And considering the fact that most every other member of my family loves children I'm definitely the odd man out.


I do whatever I can to avoid them as well. What parts make you think it's sensory? For me, I feel that it's usually a social awkwardness, I always feel as if someone will think I'm doing something wrong, and I just don't know what to say to kids, I certainly have a hard time "cooing" over babies. When my son was born, this problem didn't seem to be an issue. I was so fascinated with him. I'd snuggle with him, play with him, feed, nurture & enjoy him ....which is probably what made it so hard when he started to pull away.



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07 Mar 2009, 9:34 pm

Constantly wiggling or shaking my foot/feet, jiggling my legs. Other than that, they just can't stand that I successfully do my own thing and don't want their interference.


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07 Mar 2009, 9:38 pm

My mother hated when I took some "solitary time" inside my room. She always wanted me to be out and "spend time with the family." :roll:

She hated that I listened to obscure music artists, rather than the well-known popular music artists that you hear on the radio every single day everywhere.

She hated that I had my own personal style, rather than trying to be a clone of everyone else.

She hated that I felt perfectly comfortable with ten comforters and quilts piled on top of me, in the middle of summertime.

She hated that I didn't invite friends over to the house every single weekend like my brother did.

She hated that I liked boys that had nice personalities despite the fact they didn't look like male models. Mom wanted me to date the handsomest boy I could find.

She hated the fact that I chose not to bare my body to the public by wearing a tiny bikini, and the fact that I chose a conservative skirted one-piece bathing suit instead.

She hated that my actions were motivated by logic and not emotion. How dare I be a "robot"! :lol:


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07 Mar 2009, 9:39 pm

ngonz wrote:
Constantly wiggling or shaking my foot/feet, jiggling my legs. Other than that, they just can't stand that I successfully do my own thing and don't want their interference.


I know...me, too. Not just my parents but all my siblings and old friends. I'm the "ditzy slacker", broke all the rules, and turned out more "successful" than any of them. (Successful being subjective - but in our case, applicable.)


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07 Mar 2009, 10:00 pm

My mother hates me doing Benny & Joon.

The second thing is diapers I think. She acts like it's a phrase and I will outgrow it. :roll: It's a fetish. It's like asking someone is they are still gay or lesbian or bisexual. Even if I do quit, I still be into them. There is no cure.



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07 Mar 2009, 10:02 pm

hyperfocusing on the internet :wink:



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07 Mar 2009, 10:04 pm

Missing cues or interrupting them in the middle of speech.


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07 Mar 2009, 10:06 pm

Having a crystal clear recall of things that they would prefer be forgotten.

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