Do you feel "normal" when no one is around?

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Just wondering...

I feel very "at peace" with myself when I am alone...Throw just a couple of people into the mix..especially ones I am not comfortable around....and the illusion is shattered.....


Anyone else feel the same way?

I'm EXACTLY like that! Right now, I feel awesome. Tomorrow when I'm walking the corridors being made fun of by some b***h who doesn't even KNOW me, well, that'll be a whole different story.

This is true of me sometimes. It was much more true in the past, before I became clingy like a mega puppy who just lost his mother and siblings. Now when I'm alone I feel like a worthless loser, and it pisses me off.

It's very encouraging that it's not just a developmental thing that I'm doomed to face the rest of my life. I see you're 33, poopylongstuffing. Maybe by the time I'm that age, I'll be back to my old self.

Right now I feel peachy..but later on when the bands show up and the people show up and I have to get talked to and give directions and instructions and meet people and blah blahs...it will all go to hell....

I feel normal as on WrongPlanet the best advice I have had on my own journey is stick with like minded people, as we can only be ourselves - it works when we can find them

I am EXACTLY like that too. Right now, I feel normal and capable while I am sitting in front of my computer. I am heading out the door to an event, and in 45 minutes I will be among 10-20 people - feeling alone, inadequate, stared at, awkward, looking like a weirdo, and so on. That' just day-to-day life as an aspie.

I ONLY feel normal when i am on my own. it is the ONLY time.

i think for me, this is perhaps the most profoundl and distinctive aspect of autism.
i crave connection, but ultimately, i only ever feel at peace when it is just me.

I'm dreading school tomorrow. It's a new school so I don't know hardly anyone (is that a double negative?), and on the playground before school everyone stands in gangs looking at each other menacingly, and I had nobody to stand with so I stood on my own, and I knew they thought I was a right loser. But then I walked somewhere else and I found someone I knew who let me wait with her.

It doesn't help that it's a small "friendly" (yeah right) school, so everyone's like, "Hey, you're the new girl, what's your name, where you from, blahblahblah.." cos then they find out how crap my social skills are. I have been labelled as "weird" already.

I don't believe wanting to be alone (in certain aspects) is necessarily a matter or agitation, anxiety, or worrying about the future for me. Rather, I have classically preferred to be able to have freedom over friends / demands. I like to be able to control what I am opening my mental "ports" to. I don't like having to be self conscious, and while it is bearable, it is not pleasuring to say the least. I'm someone who wants to be free and talk to who I want to talk with, be alone when I want to be alone, do what I want to do when given the chance, and do what others say only if I feel it should be done.

I also feel normal when I am alone.

Definitely.

I too feel normal when I am alone.

Sometimes after a while of not having to interact I can fool myself into thinking that maybe interacting with people isn't so hard and I don't *really* have *that* much stress/trouble with it, and then I'll go to the bank and have to talk to a teller, or get the mail and a neighbor is there by their box wanting to chat, and in seconds I'm reminded that I was totally wrong...

I wouldn't necessarily say that I feel normal when I'm alone, I'm just free to be me. Whereas when I am with other people, I'm bound to the chains of what society expects of people and that's frustrating. So I don't think it's about being normal so much as it is about freedom. Especially since "normal" is pretty difficult to define. Who is "normal?" Everybody is unique in their own way, even NTs.