I have a theory as to why so many people are unhappy

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I think a lot of people live in a country or region of a country that is completely unsuited to them. For example, I think many people who have a German kind of mindset and want a German kind of lifestyle live in France. And many people who in their heart of hearts is a Washingtonian lives in Birmingham, England. How many Irish people actually belong in Italy?

...Perhaps...You mean Washington DC , the District of Columbia , in America , or , Washington STATE ?????????

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I mean Washington the state. These are my own observations:

Manchester, England: Is too industrious for my nature. The loudness, organisation and brash provincial pride of the place frustrates my somewhat jokey, worldly personality. I'm a more contemplative, artistic person.

The Lake District, England: Probably the best place I've ever been for me. Most people seemed genuinely, consciously happy. The wilderness resonated with my inner angst.

There's no place like home...

It depends on where home is. If there was a way to match types to regions (we call that prejudice, but that could be done in a good way, I suppose), it would be easier.

I guess the start of it would be to consider what you like about life, and figure out where you'd find the most/best of it.

I don't know how many Irish are in Italy, but if you go to Boston...

I think it has more to do with the fact that most people settle down into the life that was expected of them, before having taken the time to explore the world and really figure out what sort of life is best suited for them. And, of course, visiting a number of places would be part of this.

Sounds kinda like me, I'm British but I'd definitely be better in America.

It's because people don't smile and get enough hugs.

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I really would like to live some where else just to see other cultures. I plan to travel the world when old enough.

I MIGHT do better in Ireland, because I read on one thread that social services there are really good. But, the state I'm in (Oregon) has some of the best social services in the US. I've lived in 4 states and never been treated this well before.

I think I belong here and I was less happy in Georgia, North Carolina and California.

I will say there is a comfort of home. Like I'm from West Virginia, and the military took me to Wyoming. I hated it in Wyoming because it wasn't West Virginia where the grass is actually greener thanks to the mountains. But now that I'm back home, it has changed. I find comfort in the scenery, but not so much the people anymore. Better than what was going on in Wyoming, but not the same growing up.

I bet I'd like Germany because I've never met a person from Germany that I didn't like. It's kinda funny because I remember this movie based on a book, Howards End maybe, but in the movie, they are in England, but the main characters were mixed between English and German, and they were given grief for their German heritage making them more artsy and crazy. My heritage is mainly German from my dad's dad's side, English from my dad's mom's side, German from my mom's mom's side, and English from my mom's dad's side. So I always wondered about Germany and England. I also wonder about Austria. I really need to visit these places, but I want to wait till my kids are old enough to remember the trip so it's educational.

I did live in Florida once for a little while, and I loved it there. Personally, I'm a beach person, so I love a nice beach as it's a great place to retreat when life starts closing in on me. My in-laws are in Puerto Rico, and while I like the very little enforcement going on with laws for my sake, it really makes for a high crime rate.

But my family is here in WV, and I don't know why I stay for their support because they don't offer any. Like my kids are 1 and 2, and my mom has watched them twice since I've had them. My sister's kids are 1, and then 2 boys between 5 and 10. My mom has watched all three of her kids more times than I can count in the last year alone. My sister watched my oldest daughter once for an hour, and my friend watched my oldest daughter once for like 2 hours. I watch their kids all the time, but not as often as my mom has watched my sister's kids. Anyway, I stay for their support, but it really is all an illusion.

I don't know where I would be happy. I don't really make new friends easily, from here in the states. Most of my newer friends are either strange or not from this country. Like in the military, I had one friend from the People's Republic of California . I also had a friend from Michigan / Spain with a father who was muslim and a mother who was previously wiccan and changed to Jehova Witness. And her father was filthy rich in Spain. Anyway, I had a couple friends from Korea, a friend from Africa, and 2 friends from Germany. Most were male, even though I'm female. Oh, and I married a Puerto Rican. And 20 to 1 says that Obama would think I was a cooler person at first impression than any other president in the past.

But either way, happiness is a state of mind. If you can't be happy anywhere, then you will never find it in one spot.

I quite like Paris

People are very arrogant aloof and standoffish there

I sort of fit in

I am very homesick for Ottawa, yet if I lived there I'd probably be climbing the walls (though maybe not, depending on what I was trying to accomplish).

I have never fit in here, and I expect that if I succeed at what I'm trying to do I'll start climbing the walls here too, in which case I will end up in an even larger noisier city where I will fit in even less. The ultimate plan is to become rich so I can afford a place in the country. I bet I will still be driving myself nuts trying to find a "home" even then.

They say home is where the heart is. Maybe that's my problem.

The environment can contribute a lot of stress, and if it isn't right for you, yeah, you'll probably be more unhappy than you'd otherwise be.

I don't know that you have to switch entire cities or countries though. Moving from the suburbs to the city or from a dorm to an apartment or from your parents' house to a place of your own... etc.... might be quite enough to give you the surroundings where you work best. Well, after the "moving" stress dies down.