social skills do they improve when youve been drinking ?

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i was wasted a few days ago and i just didnt worry about my social interaction what so ever i just didnt care and i got on with eveyone

but is my social skills better or the fact that i just didnt care what i said

When I've been wasted I just feel dazed.

I think it's more likely that 'you're' uninhibited. You feel more relaxed from the alcohol, and anyone who's more relaxed socializes more comfortably than someone who is anxious.

You were likely less self concious under the influence.

i like that im turning into an alcoholic

My social skills get worse if I drink. They start out bad and get worse. I enjoy it, but I have to be careful not to do too much around other people because I get tired when I am around even people I like, and drinking makes it worse. My inhibitions go the other way, too because of incapacitation on top of weak baseline social capabilities.

Feeling a bit dazed when you're alone is OK and enjoyable, but it doesn't work well when you have to be on your toes! Maybe socializing just isn't for me after all.

Last edited by sgrannel on 14 Mar 2009, 11:28 am, edited 1 time in total.

For me, there's a fine line between "comfortably buzzed" and "sobbing 3rd wheel no one can get rid of." So I limit my alcohol intake when I'm around others because I don't want to embarrass myself in an attempt to become more social.

I lose some of the 'stiffness' I've been accused of, but to be honest, alcohol acts as an oral lubricant so my shoe fits better....

It's true. My social skills get way better with being drunk. My intellegance gets knocked down a few notches, and I don't control what I say much. I avoid it, though. "Hyper-scensitive" takes on a new level when I'm drunk. God the memory...

For me there's a fine line between drinking enough to be sociable, and drinking far too much and making a complete fool of myself.

Unfortunately, I've never been able to work out where that fine line is, and I keep drinking until I make a fool of myself.

Drinking may reduce the stress of social interaction but it does not improve my social skills (and I'd guess not anyone else's either) it just means that I don't care if I'm being socially inappropriate. The more I've had to drink the more likely I am to pin you in a corner and talk to you about my favourite subject or obsession at the time and speak very loudly at 1000 words per minute without pausing for breath. I won't notice the pained look on your face or that you are desperately trying to get away from me.

Since I'm extroverted anyway and do not mind making mistakes, alcohol can not improve my social abilities by making me more outgoing.

I get worse by alcohol.

Self-control fades and accuracy of perception guarantee me social success and alcohol is known to not exactly influence these 2 positively.

In my experience, how much alcohol improves other peoples' perceptions of one's social skills, tends to be directly correlated to just how drunk these other people are.

alcohol just makes you more honest.

i have actually made several concious "decisions" in life, to be more direct to people (cus ive always wondered why the hell i cant connect properly with anybody ) in the end, ive become as honest and direct as i am drunk and vice versa.

ill blurt s**t out either way, and i can honestly say alcohol gives me very little, other than a dazed head.

That sounds like less social anxiety. It probably had zero impact on your social skills.

You do NOT have to drink to get rid of social anxiety. While you may always be a little more shy than most, there are sensible therapies out there that can help with the fear of embarrassment. If you can get to the point that you can embarrass yourself and laugh about it, you'll have recovered from social anxiety.

Think about it--what are you afraid of with social anxiety? You're afraid you'll make a fool of yourself, say something that hurts somebody or embarrasses you, maybe have a public meltdown. You're afraid you'll do those things and people will reject you. Yet people who get drunk make fools of themselves, cry in public, and say stupid things that would be embarrassing if the person who'd said it wasn't completely sozzled at the time. Social inhibitions go down the tube. And yet that's the exact same thing you get to a lesser degree if you solve the problem of social anxiety disorder--you can embarrass yourself, get up again and laugh over it; you can do something stupid, apologize, and go on; you can tolerate rejection because you begin to understand that the people who reject you are either jerks or else you just completely don't understand each other. You do not have to drink for that to be possible. I mean, granted, it might be a quick fix; the one serious phobia I had took something like seventeen years to overcome completely; but in seventeen years of drinking it seems more likely you'd be an incoherent alcoholic with a pickled liver than the life of the party. Besides, a phobia starts to get better the second you start working on it. Avoidance just makes it worse.

Drinking isn't the solution--if you get hooked it'll just make you more depressed. Seriously. Alcoholism causes changes very very similar to major depression and trust me, you do NOT want that.

Probably not. But I do become more sexually uninhibited, which to most men might translate into a big improvement in personality.

RE: Tallyman

Ditto. This is why I don't drink too much anymore. I even get touchy feely, which is bad around people you don't know, and sometimes with those you do know.