Not Wanting Other's To Hear Your Music.

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This sort of goes hand-in-hand with my reluctance to share anything about myself with people. It's a weird one though.

I don't know exactly why, but I feel uncomfortable with the idea that somebody else could be hearing my music. Hell, I don't even share my tastes with people if they ask. "A bit of everything" is usually the reply, which is true, but I never go into specifics. I never leave my ipod lying around for fear that someone might listen to it.

I guess it could be due my need for privacy like I said. And music is often emotional, like most art. Perhaps since we prefer others not to have a completely accurate picture of what we feel and have problems expressing ourselves, we dislike others hearing what songs we're listening to because it might give them insight into our guarded emotional and personal areas.

Even so, I dislike being so guarded because it causes me to feel even more alienated. I can't even share something as simple and enjoyable as music with others.

Last edited by nothingunusual on 15 Mar 2009, 1:25 pm, edited 1 time in total.

i am exactly the same. i never want anyone to listen to my music..although the people online i have no problems with, but i guess it's pretty obvious why.

i quite like people who liking my music its something i can actually
talk about

I can totally relate. I just prefer not to share just about anything with others. I usually hide that which exposes my likes and dislikes. I'm not sure why, but I've always been this way.

I thought it was just me. If I'm really in a music mood, I don't want others to hear it. Because then they'll know how I feel or something.

I do pretty much the same.

yep, same here. I don't make music though, I write, and the only way to ever go public with it for me is doing a Thomas Pynchon and hiding my real identity.

don't think any publisher would go for it though

I feel very strongly about my music, I really struggle to listen to a certain song after someone else has told me they like it, it's as if they've stolen some of the emotional conenction that comes with really listening close to the music, every beat, every rhyme...

Does anybody else get that? It's really fustrating.

Dan

I have no problems with sharing some of my music provided it is copyrighted already and so forth.

I have some of my songs on www.soundclick.com/ryanmcreynolds

And I have videos of myself on www.youtube.com/rpm1978

For me it's like if one does like my stuff that's cool, of course if one doesn't like it, that's all they need to say really (no need to go any further than that).

I do remember on YouTube though when some nasty idiots were giving me comments calling me ret*d cause I have Autism, and I kept reporting the cyberbullies and they kept getting their accounts closed and creating new ones.

In due time I did end up setting things up on YouTube where only those on Friend's list could send me messages.

In due time I think those meanies got bored once they knew they couldn't get a message to me, but I remember disabling the ratings thing on YouTube for a bit because the meanies were giving low ratings to be mean (it's one thing to give a low rating to a video if you honestly don't like it but doing it to be mean is a bit too much).

I still will post songs and videos anyways cause I know some people will like it, even if there are bad apples out there that chose to be mean (some of those bad apples will probably be in prison someday anyways).

I'm exactly the same way, I had no idea it was an AS-related thing. If asked what music I like, I generally just stammer out something like "I like most genres really" even though that's not actually true. I won't listen to my iPod around people I know in case they'll ask to listen to it.

Thanks for sharing this! Seriously I thought I was the only one who was so guarded and self-conscious about my personal tastes.

Sometimes I'm so sensitive about this that if I read or hear anyone criticize something I like I start to feel uncomfortable listening to it. I get so weirded out that I have trouble obtaining music I can keep liking for an extended period of time. I often buy some music and like it for a while but then later I start feeling embarrassed and stop listening to it. It's like I start to doubt whether my music really represents "me" and then I start to feel too embarrassed to listen. Ugh.

I don't particularly like people listen to my music as they will take the piss out of me.

WOW! This is an amazing thread! I also thought "I was the only one".So this is an aspie thing, very cool...

I have all my life been very sensitive with sharing my music. When I was a child I always listened to music in earphones if my family was home. I took the chance emediately to listen loud each moment when nobody else than me was at home. I remember so well one moment when I was about eleven years old. I came home and nobody was in as I thought. I emediately saw a chance to listen to my favourite song loud and throwed myself over my cassetteplayer. I was just about to start it up when my mum said "Hi" to me. She was taking a rest - in my bed - and I didnt see her!! ! That was the only chocking moment I was close to get "caught"

Now when I live with my husband its just the same. I dont listen to music so often but when I do I take my chances when he is at work or when he sleep - even if I still have my earphones. Sometimes it happens that I listen to music when he is present at his computer here in our computerroom. But I dont like it. Im feeling naked somehow - even if he cant hear a single tone himself!

And to bring music out of my home and listen to on trains and buses and such is soooooo muuuuuch out of the question!

Me too.

I have a hard time saying how a I feel -- sometimes music is the only way to convey it.

Music is one of my special interests so there are always certain bands I try to force others to listen to in hopes that they will learn to love them as well.

if music is a special interest to you I could see why you wouldn't want someone listening to it. I'm the same way sometimes, unless I want to share/talk about it... but when I'm listening to it on my own I get angry when someone tries to listen.

I thought I was the only person who did this. I find one reason for my reluctance is that the majority of the music I listen to moves me quite deeply on an emeotional level (which more often then not menas it makes me cry). As such I don't like sharing something so personal with just anyone.