what a waste of time it has been

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i think i am so tired of posting my thoughts on this site because it is to no avail.
i am not saying i am leaving, but i just know that i can never make a dent in this place because my mundane words are just scrolled past and become history in a short time.

i was dared by someone to join this site and try to get people to talk to me, and they said i could never do it.
i thought they were wrong, but i have learned a valuable lesson.

unless you are cute or articulate or deviant, this site is no haven.

but i am not saying i will not post tomorrow. i am just saying that you have to be "star" material to get noticed in such a big base of people.
all but giftedness and above is ignored as mediocrity here.

i do not need any responses to this post.

i just think that i put effort into my posts, and then i am talked over to the poster behind me as if i do not exist.

but whatever.

i am tired and not that well, and i am disappointed that as hard as i try to communicate to who i think is like me, i remain alone.

but alone is not such a bad thing i guess.

i do not want any appraisals of my posting style. i do not want anything like condolence.

good night and do not reply please.
this is only a statement and not a gripe.

i am in a meltdown for another reason and i hope i can delete this tomorrow when i see it is petulant.

My friend, this sounds an awful lot like how I was feeling this weekend when I made my post which I ended up editing out later.

I do understand how you feel, because even I posted the other day that I can't even seem to fit in with other people with AS. And if you can't fit in with similar people, then where can you fit in?

And while I often feel overlooked in some threads, I also know that I, too, am guilty of overlooking others. I honestly, though, attribute AS to this in that I do often not consider the fact that there are others posting, at the time it's just my thoughts that matter to me and I will look for posts that share similar views and immediately respond to those. Plus the ADHD, in that I also skim most reading material as well, which also includes posts on this forum.

I hope this all makes sense, I am extremely tired today and my head hurts, so I feel like I am not making sense.

http://aspergia.moroccoforum.net

I kinda don't really connect with people much, so it's probably more me (and a lot of other posters here) than you. Stuff has to catch my attention. It's really not personal, it's just what happens when a lot of people with an addiction to information and bad social skills get together.

One thing I've found that's helpful is that if you make it easy for someone to reply, they will. Asking a direct question has that effect, so does asking people for their experiences. We're not all that good at give-and-take with conversation, in general, so you've got to kind of leave an opening that makes it easy for someone to formulate a response. Think of what makes it easiest for you to think of something to say, and put that in your post.

Also, the ADHD among us might have trouble with long posts. I'm a frequent offender here--I ramble on for ages. If you can make them short, but not too short, do that.

You're right in saying that but I also think you shouldn't think too much about it or worry too much about it.

This truly is a place of autistic people. Even when they read responses of others, they might totally not respond to them because their social and communication deficits.

So, just saying that not being replied to doesn't mean you don't get noticed.

I don't understand what some people want out of a message board. Are you sad because you don't get 9 pages of responses to the threads you make? More replies = Intarweb WIN!

Sorry, but you can't be mad at a cat for not being a dog. If you came here with the expectation that joining a message board will be like having an instant circle of close friends who will love you and dote on your every post, you're going to be disappointed no matter what message board you post on.

I have to say, this is probably one of the most friendly, welcoming places on the internet and if you can't be satisfied with it the way it is, then alter your expectations.

Bye!

The style of this forum does tend to be people posting their experiences one after the other, and not very conversational. For my part I actually try not to get into too much discussion because I find it stressfull having to maintain a conversation, even if its electronic. Looking at the low reads-to-replies ratios, I imagine I can't be the only one. Doesn't mean I don't read stuff and relate to it... I probably should be more pro-active about saying so.

The "random" forum seems a bit more chatty, maybe you could try posting in there?

If you go who will keep me in line?

Take a look at how many views a thread gets compared to the number of posts. Many look at a thread, read it, & decide there's nothing more that needs to be said. People read your posts. You're just so thourough that they're often hard to respond to.

Btw, do you notice the kinds of people who do get the most attention on here. They just make a lot of short posts saying dumb & contreversial stuff. Make your next post about how great it is to worship Satan & eat babies and I'm sure you'll get the attention you're looking for.

I think it's important when posting on a message board that you do it for yourself, and not for how others will respond to it. You can vent, you can debate, and some make friends ... but I haven't seen much of that for myself over all the years I've posted in various places. I guess I'm not much different on a message board than in real life ... which is, just a little distant. It's how I present myself to the world, so it is my choice in a way, even if I've never done it consciously, and I need to accept that.

And here ... well, you'll see more of that than in other places. Most AS simply are, "a little distant." Often wrapped up in their own issues or their own perspective, or simply unaware of those little words and phrases that can make others feel instantly connected to a person.

But, hey, when I come here at least I'm not burdened by knowing that everyone else is super close and I'm the only one chirping in from the sidelines.

And I'm probably not even AS myself - I came here looking for information on my son. But, it's comfortable for me.