"Autistic eyes"

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I frequently heard people describing the eyes of autistic people as "different" and "looking autistic". Non-autistic people say so, but also several autistic people.

What is meant by that exactly?

Aka "frog eyes".

I was once told by an old man I had "flat eyes"...hehe...When I asked he said he actually loved my eyes...so I'm not sure...I have been told that my eyes are just very different...I see my kiddo's eyes and see that they sparkle more, there's something different between his eyes and my other nieces/nephews...I have one nephew that I believe is not yet diagnosed and his eyes are also amazing...

I have been toldmy eyes look much older than my age Would suggest, and that they look wise...

I get told I have spanish eyes.....never autistic eyes, although I'm sure people have noticed my avoidant gaze.

Why frog eyes?
Yep, my eyes are very glazed over and noticeably different from other people's, so much that I look drugged which is totally not true. It's a big problem for me when people believe lies about me that aren't true based exclusively on erroneous perceptions.

I have "vacant" eyes. They don't look very..alive. Then again, people generally don't see my eyes properly unless I'm forcing myself to look at them, which never lasts for long.

I don't know if I have the "eyes" but my aspie friends do, one of them looks like they're faraway in a distant land, like stoned and stuff, very attractive too

My eyes must look like they're in 'la-la land' most of the time, when I don't see my face in a mirror.

I've never liked my eye color either...yucky hazel eyes, so boring and unattractive.

Most people that have commented on my pics say I have a distant or blank stare.

Oh wow! This thread really hits home for me. Throughout my childhood and early adolescence, adults around me (other than immediate family) were making an inordinate number of comments about my eyes. In retrospect, the comments were generally neutral to semi-positive, but I found them extremely irritating, much like a attractive woman would feel about wolf-whistles. I could never understand why mature adults would be so fixated on a single body part. After all, what was it so wrong/bad/unusual/exciting about my eyes that all those adults commented on it so much. For a few months, I even went through a phase when I put my hand over eyes when meeting a new adult. I stopped doing that after a few months, after I realized it was getting even worse responses. And later on, fortunately, I grew past the age when my eyes were such a focus of attention.

One time, I actually responded back to someone's comments: "May I ask you something? ("yes") Is there a reason why you're focusing on one part of my body, instead of me as a person? Do you think I'm an object?" The person was so shocked by the way I framed her actions, that she ended up stammering and apologizing. (Mind you, I was 14 at the time.) My parents later scolded me a little, but left things at that, because even in their opinion, I didn't say anything that would be truly considered rude. In fact, I was originally going to say: "your statement bothers me; please don't say it again", but when I said it in the past, adults just laughed at me. (Using this phrase with peers was out of the question, and I already knew it by that age.)

What happed to me when I was a teen is that I'd stare at people's chests and hands, so it was embarrassing, because girls' breats are seen as something sexual.

I’ve heard this comparison a couple of times as well. Personally, I don’t see it, but I don’t usually worry about things I don’t have any control over.

I was told that my eyes look dreamy.
I also heard the term "uncivilized" for Aspie-eyes, what makes perfect sense linked to the Aspie-"uncivilizedness" in general...
It seems to me that it's more like looking at an animal (therefore the term "frog eyes", but I think a mammal is more suitable). It's interesting that most animals also avoid or even get frightened from eye-contact...

How can eyes look "uncivilized"?

When I was wee, people often used to accuse me of staring at them. I certainly wasn't trying to, though. So, ever since I was a child, I've tried to avoid looking at people.

Of course, that led to "Why won't you look at me when I'm talking to you?"