Ever Made yohurself Unattractive?

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Have you ever made yhoruself unattractive just to protect yhourself?

I used to dress in sweats to go to church, for instance, and not brush hair.

There were two reasons:

1. I didn't want to fake
2. I did not want to buy into the social norms, not so much that I didn't want to but could not. In fact, when I HAD to, I would for instance, wear sweats under a skirt I had to wear.

Anyone do this? Resist social norms even if you look awfula nd homeless/

Honestly, that's lame as hell. Looking different just to spite the norm. Sounds exactly like what a lot of emo and goth kids are doing these days.

Oh definitely!

It was to ward any untrustworthy people away.
This was because I was discouraged from having boyfriends by my family.
I'm still not allowed any.
They said it would cause too much emotional trouble, so it wasn't worth it.

Conformity is overrated.

When I want some peace and quiet alone I wear the most awful clothes possible.
Why should I dress up if I never get invited out anyway.
My family said that's what I should expect from life because they say that people go out don't really have fun: partying people just lie to say they've had fun just to make people jealous lol

Oh I love my family...

All jokes aside...I want to be true to myself warts and all.

That means no-makeup, no skirts and no pointless pointy footwear that's a severe health hazard.

I used not to brush my hair that frequently either.

I always wash and keep myself clean though.
I do that to feel comfortable though, not to please other people.

Last edited by AmberEyes on 02 Apr 2009, 6:55 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I've only done that when I've found out ppl fancy me, and it would complicate things. Just to ward them off. I have always found it better to look unattractive enough for ppl to go off me than me telling them I wasn't interested.

I wear stereotypical frumpy librarian clothes for work so I don't get hit on by patrons or coworkers, but I never wear anything inappropriate for an occasion (like sweats to church) because that would have the opposite effect of drawing attention to myself.

My sister has often told me that I make myself unattractive, but if so then it is not deliberate. I wear the clothes I do because they are comfortable, not because of how they look.

I don't think making one's self unattractive is a good way to avoid attention, for there are lots of people who delight in mocking those who are in no way beautiful.

Edited for the typos.

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Yeah, when guys started to make remarks about me. I felt invisible in my baggy clothes.

Funny thing is they're actually not different. They go to a gig and everybody looks like them. Original much?
I think the early punk and grunge kids got it right.

I like to make myself look unattractive b/c I would rather people make fun of me for being ugly than compliment me . May sound weird but I hate being complimented. I used to not bathe t get people to avoid me (stopped b/c it did not work). It depends on the type of ugly you are if looking unattractive will work I think. If you are androgynous (pass for either gender) especially if you are a boyish looking girl, you will probably be harassed (happened for 1 yr. to me at age 13 b/c of a weight issue causing the confusion/puberty sucks!) but being a very plain appearing female makes me look invisible . I like it!

But I honestly have no way of knowing if people (Aspies, Neurotypicals, etc.) find me attractive or rating my attractiveness, I cannot tell at all .

Let's just say this causes some issues...
so I hang around people who like me for my personality .

I don't know for sure if this is true, but I think NT's are much more likely to judge someone based on their looks so cliche .

Whoever said the thing about emo's & goths, good point they became their own enemies in new wrappers .

Where is the individuality, I cannot find it !

Part of the reason I cut my hair very short (the other reason is comfort and hygiene) is that a very short-haired girl doesn't attract romantic attention if she doesn't do anything to pursue some set "look".

I did this for most of my life- wore very baggy clothing. Also decided cutting and starving would enhance the effect so spent number of years doing that too, My main reason was that I was simply terrified of people and what they could do.

I used to have social anxiety and panic disorder so bad that I couldn't be around people. So, instead of going through the embarassment of trying to explain that to interested women, I did things to make myself less attractive. I didn't take care of my hair, quit shaving, never dressed nice, never talked to anyone, and became a bar-fly. It was pretty effective.

I'm glad I'm not so restrained anymore.

I dress according to my tastes. I guess that you could say that I'm a modernized, punked up version of Austin Powers, from 1977, instead of 1967.

I wear and cut what's in my routine, which is comfortable for me; I don't care how people view me.

It's just a shell of space dust [with no soul or anything magical within].

i do not go out in public in shorts because some men ogle my legs.

i have never made any effort to look any way in particular.
i just do not reveal much of my skin in public.

I've never *made* myself look unattractive, just never really cared. Making my self look unattractive, imo, is caring way more than making my self look attractive.
For example, I have acne(not really bad, mainly on the forehead, lol), and I found it WAY too inconvenient to put spot cream on every night just to get away a few spots.
But the moment someone told me I dressed like a chav, I pretty much started dressing like an alternative, LOL(serious).
I guess it's all over the place on whether I do or do not care. On non-uniform day at my school, I was panicking like crazy because I noticed I was the only one who wasn't doing what I'd define a complete over kill on clothes(I was wearing no accessories[i.e hat, scarf, necklace, sweat band, giant Gothic style shoes, no make-up(I wasn't bothered about the make-up though, everyone knew I wouldn't wear make-up anyway)]), but I'm MORE than happy(to be honest, incredibly obsessive) to wear the same hair style every day to school, while everyone else wears a new one everyday and dyes their hair like every month...
For those who can't be bothered reading the above: No, I don't deliberately make my self un-attractive.
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