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HI,
Did you/do you find school life very difficult? I'm NT (mostly) but my son is 4.5 years and I'm fairly sure he is aspie/HLA/PDDNOS. Yesterday I was very sad about it but as I flick through these boards I find I relate more and more and I'm learning it's all OK.



Havent bothered to get the signoff thing worked out yet!

I really hated the social aspect of school, but I enjoyed any learning that went on. (Not nearly enough, in my opinion, though.) Mostly I got through school with my nose stuck in a book and by hanging around with the other "weird" kids. I did enjoy drama for my last three years of high school, though, and I had a few good friends in high school.

I love school. I like the academics. However I hate the people and bullying.

I hated junior high and high school, but college was good. The primary reason why I hated those years is because of the bullying. I was severely bullied in my younger years. At 13 years of age it got so bad that I had a full blown psychotic episode with depression and suicidal ideation. I feared school. It was a terrible time in my life. And what's worse is now I'm being bullied on the Internet. This proves the world wants me dead.

Simple: For the most part, i hated school.

I did not like spending time with my classmates, i hated being bullied, and the schools reaction - send the guy being beat up to a psychologist, which didnt solve a damn thing and i continued to be bullied. I did not like being called a bad person when i finally beat up a bully - but at least the bullies left me alone for 1-2 years.

I remember on occation they sent me to special class to learn to write properly. And the same later on for various subjects, but the teachers sent me back and said "There is nothing wrong with him". I guess i had a motivational problem - i simply did not give a crap about subjects that i saw no use for.

"You got to learn math, what if you work at the cash register"? I told them that in the future, every cash register will be equipped with computers/electronic calculators and i wouldnt have to know math... and they laughed at me. (And now we even have barcode/RFID scanners, making it even more simple than operating an electronic calculator!).

I never did any homework and my grades suffered, except in English and some few other subjects i actually liked (electronics was fun). The biggest thing for me in that time was in the final 7-9th grade when i could sit in the computerroom during lunch/breaks playing "Elite" and tinkering with the 'puters.

College (and afterwards) was better, but bullying was still there in College. At this stage i started to verbally fight back because i got tired and lost all respect for people in that age.

Sure, i got "exposed to the elements" of the social pecking order and maby i grew a bit, but i felt like crap going through the Swedish school system.

AAAHHHHHH!! !! !!

Sorry about that, but had to scream.

School was a living hell on Earth. I wouldn't go through the nightmare of it again if I was paid.

Memories of sitting alone in the playground, walking to and fro down corridors pretending I had somewhere to be, hiding in the toilets, being the odd one out in class...they all still haunt me.

Never EVER again.

School for me was fine until the 5th grade. Then it was complete hell until about the 11th grade. One of the things that made it hell was that for some bizarre reason, puberty was delayed for me. When you mix that with when my birthday is vs the grade cutoff, I was a couple years behind the other kids in physical development. This made it all the easier for the bullies.

For 8th and 9th grade, I went to a private school in japan. This school was blessed with a swimming pool which made school feel like a whole new deeper level of hell. Dressing in a locker room is barely tolerable when you can keep your underwear on.

On top of all of this, I'm very pale, but was growing up in california in the 80s where it was in to be tan. My skin color was everyone's favorite thing to comment on.

My son has AS and is 10 now. He's a lot bigger than I was at his age, so I think people will leave him alone. We're also prepared for whatever crap he's likely to have to endure. The plan is to move him to a private school next year. Our 6 year old is HFA and became a completely different kid at the private school.

brian

Grade school was tough, but high school was merely boring because by then, I had learned to keep my mouth shut and just sit in the corner and draw. Middle school was AWESOME because I spent a couple years in a special school and we hardly did any real work. We got to run around and be lazy most of the time, and I made a lot of great friends. I guess I didn't learn a lot of academic stuff, but I think I was much better off because I wasn't constantly frustrated and I think I became a lot more relaxed and learned social skills without being picked on. College was great too, because I went to an art school so there were a lot of people there with similar interests to mine. I just recently graduated.

School... I was definitely a lonely person. I only really excelled both academically and socially once placed in a small private school, before that I was just a number and therefore acted like one. Halfway through high school I switched to a public school, but I quickly adapted to being the kid in the corner again. The first year of high school was hellish though, because since I was the new guy I was a target for bullies. By the second year I got sick of it and just wrote down their names and turned it in. A couple of kids got into serious trouble, and I was able to go through the rest of the year in peace.

I'm in a small college now, and since I'm a commuter student I feel like I'm even more of a number than before due to just how limited my communication with others truly is. I've made a couple of friends, one of which is an aspie, but I can't even hang out with them due to my schedule.

I hate school. The learning isn't so bad, but the social aspect (90%) is crap. I'm just hoping college is better

College is much better and the people you do socialize with, are at least mature, in the neurotypical language, to not do stupid things. There is much less emphasis on social status, or at least in some circumstances social status is based on intelligence.

I learned the higher your social status, the more leeway you have in following social conventions. Therefore, the arguement is simple. Show everyone your intelligence. How do you do this? Answer more questions correctly then anyone else and therefore you're "intelligent" With that knowledge, you gain social status, and then you be given more leeway....

It's BS and crap, but that's how the university socialization works.