prank went too far

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I am kinda friendly with my neighbour we hang out a fair bit especially lately. Anyway he is getting really obsessive about his ex girlfriend and stalking her bydriving around to her house and sitting there, calling her up and hanging up, getting others to call her, getting people to knock on her door, guessing her password for email. facebook and RSVP and reading them on my computer, calling up the airline to find out when she is getting back from her holiday. Anyway my problem is that I am getting too fair involved I was there a few times when he was sitting outside her place, was a look out whilst he went into her shed and one time turned off her lights at the fuse box. Tonight we did it again at Michael's suggestion to put Tina off the scent it made her more annoyed though and go to the cops.

To "help him out" I nievely decided to place an ad on Gumtree with his ex address saying that she was after casual sex with women. Anyway it got way out of hand and being asexual and Asperger's thought she would get a couple of people tell them to f**k off and that would be it. Instead she got like 60 responces and got in a full on argument with people at her door. I also got into her emails and replied to ones people had sent regarding the ad and then deleting them so Tina would not know. I did not intend to hurt or upset her or put her in danger just annoy her I thought it would be a joke instead it got way out of hand and she called the cops, so far so good nothing has happened to me. Trouble is that other people are upset with me for doing it and sure it wasnt a good idea but there is a lot more to the story than they know. The truth is I didnt understand the wider implications of playing such a prank I have trouble because of my AS seeing the wider consequences. For those of you who are going to say well I can see the consequences etc I say remember that AS affects everyone differently and for me this is an area I have great difficulty with.

I can understand getting "persuaded" to do things you know you shouldn't do. I've been there before...several times. First of all, he sounds like he has some issues, if he is stalking her to begin with, and he is being inconsiderate of you to drag you into that mess.

Serious consequences aside, that's hilarious.

Idiot.

You did know what you were getting into. We told you when you posted this thread the first time. I did tell you that you were an accomplice in something illegal. You ignored the comments on the thread.

Apart from what that woman must be going through - being stalked is a horrible experience - your friend may very well get in trouble with the police if he carries on pestering her. And so will you if you join in with him on those 'pranks'. Don't do anything like that again is my advice. You might even find your friend puts the blame onto you if she does get the police involved!

Well, you have expressed already that you know it went too far - this means you do understand the implications. I do know Autists can be really naive (!) and this can be a problem in a lot of areas. Since you've apologized, at least in my mind, this counts for a lot! Plus you wrote you truly didn't know the wider implications at the time.

I guess we all do dumb things every now and again. Maybe you could consider a brief written apology? This might make you feel better too.




AlMightyAl: Remember to not call a member names, which is considered a personal attack.

Be cautious, Catster.

This dude is Un-Well.

Not a smart move.... My advice would be talk your "friend" out of the stalking, as there will be less chance of getting caught then, and never speak of the incident again. Oh, and get your "friend" some counseling...

Just imagine you had strangers showing up on your doorstep, asking for sex... I think in that situation I'd call the cops, too. Seriously. I pity that woman.
I'd advise you to NEVER talk to your neighbor again or even go near him, since he seems unstable and possibly dangerous. He's not an appropriate social contact. "Don't hang out with creepy sex offenders" should be number one advice for aspies...

If I was you I would be seriosly considering sending her an apology. What you did was awful but a sincere sorry goes a long way. You are obviously good at expressing your remorse so tell her not us. Maybe a nice buch of flowers too.

In future, I think you should tell your friend to do his own dirty work. It wouldn't have been so hard for him to have done that prank himself, without getting you involved.

And I agree with TheMidnightJudge, that prank's hilarious, LOL.

he started yelling and screaming at me tonight because i am telling people about it of course I am I have got way too far involved and I am sick of him acting like I have done everything I havent sure I sent the ads but he was the one that got me involved in the Tina stuff in the first place. I will tell people i am in things pretty deep and should never have got involved I wont take the blame for it.

This is why I hate having Aspergers.

"Aspies tend to be naive"
and
"Aspies like to hang out with bad people"
and
"Aspies don't know when to stop"

The worst thing I have ever done is go on my computer when I was grounded. I am serious.
I have to ask "Is this my plate?" every night for dinner when I walk in, even if everyone else is already eating. What if it wasn't?
I ALWAYS, and I mean ALWAYS think about the consequences.

If you tell people that you were the one who did the gumtree prank, then you'll also have to tell them about what your neighbor was doing. I've had pranks go out of hand before, but this is crazy.
You should not have told anyone in the first place.