please help - diagnosis

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Hi, I realise you cannot give me a definite answer but does this sound like AS to you. MY son is 4 1/2, never really has like/done eye contact well (he will with me if pushed but not with strangers) he runs like a baby, just doesnt have the right action, he has meltdowns when he doesnt get his own way. He gets this look at times like his stoned (sorry miss spent youth on my part) or just plain day dreaming i thought he was bored at school but.....He doesnt have a "thing" or at least not yet. But he does get really upset at times and doesnt see other peoples point of view. I've only just heard of AS and I am quite concerned. Also, I live in Hong Kong and it will be difficult to find some one with knowledge/experience here.
Thanks in advance for your input,
Shaun

Right at the moment you are probably very worried and I understand that. I have two children. My oldest has AS and my youngest has ADHD. Sounds awful doesn't it but in reality they are great kids and I love them to bits. The whole concept can be hard to take in but honestly if he is AS it's not the end of the world.

Finding here is a good step. There are many people here who can give you sensible advice and understanding. AS isn't as terrible as it sounds and having a parent who understands and cares will make a huge difference to him if he is AS.

I googled Aspergers and Hong Kong and it came up with several matches so you might want to follow that up. Finding people who can help you is important and there are many books available that can help you too.

Be careful about some of the things that are on the internet. There is some bizarre stuff out there.

Above all don't panic. You are not alone.

Thanks for your support Julie B - right now I feel just really really sad, today he is OK but I am full of fear of the future. does the condition improve or worsen as people get older? It's been the weekend so I have not been able to get my hands on any books yet, what do you think of ABA ?

Relax. Kids are a lifelong responsibility. You need to enjoy life just as the new person will - the best you can.

yes, being an Aspie is a lifelong condition. Being accepting and being the person's best friend is the best gift you can give.

Don't let fear of the future drive you into negative directions.

The condition is lifelong, but usually high-functioning people (and if you are not entirely sure whether your son is on the spectrum at all, he most likely is high-functioning) improve over time because they learn to adapt to social norms intellectually even if they lack the intuition for them. There's no reason to be overly worried yet. I have AS and I'm leading a perfectly normal life, currently studying at university. So if there are support groups in your area, go there, get help, but AS is no reason for panic and it most likely won't ruin your son's life, especially if his language development is okay. You mentioned school, so I guess he has a normal or even high IQ if he can keep up with the other kids?