Does having an asd make you more vulnerable to abuse?

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Does being on the spectrum make one more likely to being abused neglected and taken advatange of?

According to most everything I have read it does. If one wants to be in a relationship with defined parameters and clear structure one is more likely to be involved with a controlling, abusive bully figure.....it is unlikely that you would be a direct victimizer yourself because we would lack the social skills to establish a controlling relationship.

Yes. Direct link to ASD and bullying/teasing - harassment. Also, ASD individuals are far more likely to abused or victimized, often at extreme levels.

mikemmlj: Definitely; and if there's one that is in a position to dominate, she will. I say 'she' because females are the worst for me. I'm a female Aspie/HFA and feminine - cannot know why, but females can be nightmarish - and very harsh.

Others do sense our innate vulnerability and social naivety, then take advantage. Worse, I'm very sensitive so their inflicted hurt really HURTS!

On the subject of abuse, yeah, I'm more sensitive to abuse, even when it comes from a person who acts that way toward absolutely everyone else. With my grandmother, if you're not family, she'll butt out, at least to your face. If you're family, she sees it as her job to get involved and help, which means telling you everything you did that was wrong. Since the football team came to my rescue in high school, people didn't bug me as much. Being the equipment manager helped.

I believe that being on the spectrum is a signal for abuse. One way to deal with it is to find a legal way to instill fear of the spectrumite in potential abusers.

I don't know what the stats say but when I was a young child, I was vulnerable to abuse. Family members (wont mention names) used to call me nasty names, swear at me, criticize me & hit me for reasons I didn't understand. I'm not sure if this is related to asd or not because I've read that a lot of children don't know why they are being abused & a lot of time there isn't even a reason.

yes.

NOOOOO!?!?!?!? weEEEEEE?!?!?!?! who said soOOO?!?!?!?!

Yes. Without question, experienced it myself.

Those who might abuse might start to really abuse you once they know you can't tell them on (for various reasons).

There's a link between predatory behaviour toward people with certain conditions that cause others to view them as vulnerable and easily victimized.
How do we stop it? We have got to get society to condemn the people who abuse. Not everyone does it but the reason it's harsher is because SOCIETY doesn't back us up, instead they often dismiss it or side with our abusers because they see us as inferior or not worthy or they somehow think we deserve it or ask for it. Until the community as a whole decides that abuse is not to be tolerated toward the more vulnerable, it's not going to get much better. That's the sad reality.
It's not just people with ASDs or other conditions that have to go thru this. Often, where there is abuse of one, there is widespread abuse of any who are percieved as weaker and it can appear to be ingrained in the culture of the community. You can see connections between domestic violence, child abuse, abuse of the elderly, and abuse of the disabled. People will deny it's abuse and justify it in such a community.
It does no good dividing abusers up into male and female and thinking one is worse than the other. All abusers are the same no matter their gender.

Definitely yes. We also tend to be more gullible which makes us an easy victim.